Friday, September 26, 2008

September 26, 2008 - Home Sweet Home

These pictures are also quite belated, but they are of our house in Nairobi. As you can tell, we have really only decorated one room of the house so far, but it is the room we spend the most time in so we are definitely enjoying it. Before the baby arrives, we hope to have the rest of our act together. Anyone with interior design aspirations is welcome to come help us out :)
This is our house from the outside. We are living in a compound of 10 houses (with a pool and sauna that we share) and our house is in a valley so we are located at the bottom of a hill.

The first floor of our house has one bedroom with it's own bathroom. There is also a guest bathroom in the hallway...but I didn't take any pictures of the bathrooms because they are really not that interesting.

This is our kitchen, taken from where the refrigerator is...so even though you can't see the fridge, we have one and you shouldn't fear that we aren't eating well-preserved food :) We do not have a microwave, but that is not because you can't get them here...it is just because we have not bought one!

This is our dining room. The white curtains have a black giraffe print that can also be found in the soon-to-be nursery. The Masai tablecloth is courtesy of Kirsten and Hans :)

The two pictures below are of our downstairs living room, with the furniture we had made at our first apartment here. We actually think the furniture is comfortable, but the furniture (especially the coffee table!) is poorly made. It is a huge room and is very nice both in the sun and when it is cold because of the fireplace...but we absolutely cannot decide what to do with it. You can see in the second picture that we have a little veranda out onto our small garden.


This are the stairs from the front hallway door that go upstairs.

This was an early Christmas gift from Kirsten and Hans that hangs on the large wall (high ceiling!) as you walk up the stairs. It is even more beautiful when you see it in person :)

Upstairs we have 3 bedrooms. The first bedroom is currently our "office" but will be the baby's room. It has its own full bathroom.

This is the second bedroom upstairs, also with its own full bathroom. It has been called "Christine's Room", "Mor and Hans' Room" and "Morten's Room" in the time that we've lived here.

This is the master bedroom on the second floor. You can see our big mosquito-free bed, which we love. The room is quite large but we don't have much furniture, because as you can see below this picture we have a walk in closet with built in shelves and drawers (that's the style here) that leads to our master bathroom.


These two pictures show our upstairs living room, which is in the middle of the three bedrooms (sort of like a loft?). This is the room we have happily decorated (with me at 12 weeks pregnant standing in it).


Outside in our garden...we have beautiful roses!

We hope you have a better idea of where we live now. Our compound has excellent 24-hour security, along with walls and gates and wires for our safety, patrols in the neighborhood and guard dogs in surrounding compounds. Despite what people fear about Africa, we are clearly not living in a hut and you can be sure we couldn't afford to live in a house like this in the US or Denmark at this stage in our lives. We hope even more of you will come visit soon!

LMW

Thursday, September 25, 2008

September 25, 2008 - Happy Birthday, Kristoffer!

So Kristoffer should be writing a blog one of these days about his climb up Kilimanjaro, but after taking a week off of work he has certainly been busy this week. Maybe this weekend! Anyway, today is Kristoffer's 31st birthday. It is also the first time we have ever celebrated his birthday together, as we were always in different cities or countries (even last year after getting married, Kristoffer was in Denmark interviewing for his job in Kenya on his birthday!). He doesn't LOOK any older (is it possible that he looks younger?), but of course impending fatherhood is an exciting prospect on his birthday.

In addition to birthday festivities, yesterday marked 16 full weeks of pregnancy for us. As you can see below, I am not the cutest pregnant woman to ever live, but yesterday I looked and felt particularly haggard after becoming extremely, extremely car sick on my way back to work from a meeting at the Ministry of Education. I am hoping that in the coming months future pictures will show me to be a glowing, radiant pregnant woman but for now, I'm working with what I've got :)



A much more amazing and exciting picture, however, is the one below of our baby at 14 weeks in utero. The doctor actually gave us 10 different shots, but this is by far the coolest one, taken when Simba was actively waving to me. S/he might have a future in modeling, I think.



If we had an ultrasound today, Simba might be doing a little birthday dance for his/her Far (Far = Father in Danish). Tillykke med Fødselsdagen, Kristoffer!

LMW

Friday, September 19, 2008

September 19, 2008 - Masai Mara Pictures (belated, take 2)

So...shortly after our safari with Kristoffer's Mom and Hans in July I tried to post a slideshow of pictures from our days at the Masai Mara and our brief visit to the Nakuru National Park. Come to find out afterwards that I am pretty much the only person who is able to see the slideshow, for some technological reason that I don't understand. Because they are so pretty, below are some of my favorite pictures (mostly taken by Hans) from our safari. I think they are self-explanatory (Masai people...animals...animals eating other animals ...sunset...the flamingoes and rhinos on the beach are from Lake Nakuru and not the Mara).

This was very early in my pregnancy (like 4 weeks?), which is not obvious except I think I look a bit puffy. It was an amazing trip for all of us; I was a bit uncomfortable in the car and was learning to deal with both a changing appetite and regular fatigue but still managed to appreciate how amazing Kenya's wildlife really is. And believe you me when I tell you that I have gone to the bathroom in the wild with the wildebeasts (gnu) and zebra more than any other visitor to the Mara ever! Enjoy! LMW




















Monday, September 15, 2008

September 15, 2008 - 15 weeks pregnant

According to my ultrasound last week, I am 15 weeks pregnant today. My body started changing A LOT last week so that now I have a noticeable, although not huge, baby bump. I also want to clarify that "Simba" is just a nickname that we call the baby now in order to avoid saying "he or she" all the time. When the baby is actually born, that will not be his or her name (I think my last blog was unclear).

Kristoffer began climbing up Mt. Kilimanjaro in Tanzania with his friends Morten and Karen a few moments ago (10:00 am our time) and will finish the climb on Friday afternoon. I can't remember the last time I didn't talk to him for 5 days, but I suppose he has only been gone for one day now so I shouldn't start complaining just yet.

He promised me that he would write a blog about his climb when he gets back!

LMW

Thursday, September 11, 2008

September 11, 2008 - Simba Waving

I woke up this morning thinking about 9/11 as I do every year on its anniversary. I think about and miss New York City and generally say a prayer for those people whose daily lives are still very much present in the consequences of that day. But, as a pregnant woman, I was also filled with hope this morning that, despite the atrocities happening in our world everyday, one of these days we will get it right and there will be peace. At least that is certainly what I hope our baby experiences in his or her lifetime.

So Baby Welsien, increasingly called Simba (which means "lion" in Swahili and is not gender specific even though Simba in the movie "The Lion King" was a boy), is doing really well these days. Yesterday I had an ultrasound at 14 weeks and 2 days along in my pregnancy. It was amazing and so different from the first ultrasound I had at 6 weeks. First of all, when you are 6 weeks pregnant and have an ultrasound, the doctor says, "Do you see that dot on the screen? That dot is your baby!" because the baby is so small at that stage. At 14 weeks, however, our baby is a real person! As soon as ultrasound started, I could see that the baby was almost jumping around. Simba was moving its arms, legs, and shaking its head! I could even see where its eyes are (although they are still sewn shut) and the outline of a little nose. It looked like Simba was waving directly at me, saying, "Hi, Mom!" at 4 different times during the scan. As I waved back to my baby, I thought, "This is probably the most amazing moment of my life so far."

Sadly, Kristoffer was not with me because he had to go to Mombasa (the city on the Coast of Kenya) for work and my doctor wanted the scan done before the end of the week. I was lying there teary-eyed with the doctor who asked simply, "This is your first baby?" How could he tell?!

The scan did not indicate any signs of Down Syndrome, Simba's spine was fully and perfectly developed, and the doctor said that everything looked normal and healthy. I will have another one in 6 more weeks when I am 20 weeks along (halfway there!) and Kristoffer will definitely not miss that one. The doctor who does the ultrasound is different than my OB/GYN but he will give her all of the pictures of the scan and at my next appointment in two weeks we will get to keep them. If I can scan them and post them here I certainly will!

We have learned that pregnant woman are treated very differently in Kenya than they are in the US or Europe. In our countries, when you tell people you are pregnant they go crazy and get excited and congratulate you and constantly ask you questions about your pregnancy! In Kenya, however, it is really taboo to talk about a pregnancy or to even acknowledge one. We have speculated as to why this is...perhaps it is because Kenyans are superstitious and don't want to "jinx" the pregnancy? Or maybe it is because infant mortality is higher in African countries than in developed countries and many babies die? It could even be that for people who are very poor, as many Kenyans are, a pregnancy is not considered to be a blessing, but rather another mouth that they can't afford to feed. For these reasons, or others we have not thought of, Kristoffer's and my colleagues are not really acknowledging that I am pregnant. At first we felt awkward about it, but now we understand and respect that it is a cultural difference. In fact, Kristoffer's colleague told him that when she was a little girl she pointed out a pregnant woman and her father beat her severely for it. Yikes! But not to worry, we are surrounded by many expatriates who are eagerly following our pregnancy and so we don't feel totally neglected!

So Kristoffer has been in Mombasa for the last two days and our Danish friends have been visiting the Masai Mara for the last three days. Everybody comes home this evening so I am eager to hear about their adventures. Over the weekend we visited Nakuru National Park (about 2 hours north of Nairobi) and had a beautiful game drive. We also visited a very touristy restaurant in Nairobi called "Carnivore" which serves a lot of MEAT! They used to be known for serving plains game (like zebra!) but now the most exotic meats they serve are ostrich and crocodile. I will admit that I tried both - the ostrich was quite good but the croc was AWFUL! As one of friends said, it tasted like SWAMP (sort of like fish actually, but with the texture of chicken)! While I had previously not been eating meat here in Kenya, in my pregnancy I have really craved chicken and turkey so I am back to eating those a few times a week. Kristoffer, the truest vegetarian, has been a very good sport and is not protesting...although our plan is to raise the baby as a vegetarian. Talk about an identity crisis...Simba will be a Kenyan-Danish-American, Catholic vegetarian. S/he will have a hard time checking off boxes on official paperwork...but maybe can get a lot of scholarships because of it!

This weekend some of our Danish friends will leave, another one will come, and then Kristoffer and two friends will leave on Sunday to spend next week climbing Mt. Kilimanjaro in Tanzania - the highest mountain in Africa. While this was one of my goals in moving to Kenya, I think I have made peace with the fact that I'll just have to do it at another time in my life. Simba's health and safety are much more important than some little mountain :)

LMW

Thursday, September 4, 2008

September 4, 2008 - A New Life in Nairobi!

We are very pleased to publicly post for the first time that Lisa is pregnant! It has been very hard for her to write a lot of blogs without talking about the pregnancy, because from the minute we found out (the day before our first wedding anniversary!) it has been the most dominant force in our lives. Now Lisa is relieved that the secret is out and she can happily turn this into a "Pregnant in Nairobi" blog.

Baby Welsien is due on March 11th and as of yesterday we are safely into the second trimester of the pregnancy. Lisa has been feeling really well for the most part. July was a month of nausea and exhaustion and August was a bit better in the nausea department, but she was equally tired! Her worst symptom so far has been terrible pregnancy acne (skin problems!) on her face and chest, but we are hoping that the second trimester will show an improvement.

We found a recommended OB/GYN here in Nairobi at the Aga Khan Hospital, which is the premier hospital in East Africa and has a brand new state-of-the-art maternity wing that we are very happy about. They have the best care around for babies born prematurely, and we are happy to know that fathers are allowed to stay in the hospital room with moms and babies (they have family "hotel rooms") and that moms and babies are not kicked out after 48 hours! So far we have been very pleased with the doctor: she is very encouraging, positive, and calm. We have friends who had a baby here last March and were very happy with the care they received.

Because this pregnancy came to us as a bit of a surprise, especially so close to Lisa's heart surgeries in May, we saw the doctor when Lisa was 6 weeks along. An ultrasound at that time showed that the baby already had a strong heartbeat (it sounded like white noise but you could see the rhythm very clearly) and, at only .5 cm big, we were instantly in love. All of our fears about the surgeries and the pregnancies were assuaged by the OB/GYN, the ultrasound, Lisa's cardiologist here and her cardiologist in NYC (via email). As much as she can, Lisa has been eating well and exercising...although both should get easier with renewed energy and decreased hormones in the second trimester.

Now...we know some of the questions you might be wondering:

What will Baby W's citizenship be? Baby W will be born with Kenyan citizenship, but will automatically get American citizenship because Lisa is American and Danish citizenship because Kristoffer is Danish. Therefore, our baby will officially be a citizen of the world, and master of three different continents.

Can your baby be President of the United States if s/he is born in Kenya? The jury is still out on this. Baby W's "Nene" (aka Lisa's mom) found evidence online that if you are born to an American citizen residing outside of the US that you can still be eligible to run for President. But the US State Department's website is not as clear. We will investigate further (because of course this is an urgent matter!) and get back to you, but if anyone reading this has expertise on the subject - please share!

What language will your baby speak? Baby W will hopefully be bilingual. Kristoffer will speak to the baby only in Danish and Lisa will speak to the baby on English. We might try to integrate some Kiswahili too...but let's not get too ahead of ourselves.

Will you find out what kind of baby you are having? No we will not! We are both equally excited about the moment of true surprise in March when the doctor says..."It's a boy!" or "It's a girl!" We do have a few names picked out in either case, but Kristoffer is definitely rooting for a boy and Lisa is thinking that it just might be a girl! Maybe somebody wants to take bets?

Will you come to the US and/or Denmark before the baby is born in March? Yes, as a matter of fact we will! We arrive in the US for 3 weeks on December 6th and then head to Denmark on December 26th for 2 weeks. After that I will be cut off from air-travel so we will really make the most of our holiday vacation. We look forward to seeing all of our family and friends (or as many of you as possible!) and showing off Lisa's baby belly.

And when will Americans and Danes get to meet Baby Welsien? Next summer we plan to take a holiday to Denmark for a few weeks in June to celebrate "Far Mor's" 60th birthday (aka Kristoffer's mom) and then we will head to the US for a few weeks as well. But of course, guests are welcome to come to Kenya before then if they just can't wait to meet Baby Welsien. In fact, Lisa's mom (and hopefully her dad too!) will be coming for about 6 weeks when Baby W is born and we already have some potential August visitors lined up. Leave it to our baby to keep a pressing social calendar.

Thank you, in advance, for sharing in our joy. Having a baby in Kenya was not exactly part of our plan when we moved here, but we are so excited and feel very blessed to be expectant parents. We have had great role models in our parents, siblings, aunts and uncles, and friends with children and we really look forward to the challenges and rewards of parenting.

Kristoffer & Lisa

Friday, August 29, 2008

August 29, 2008 - Politics

I have to say that this morning, as I watched Barack Obama accept the Democratic nomination this morning (well...CNN showed long highlights but I was asleep for the live event), I couldn't help but ache for my classroom in NYC. I envy my colleagues who get to teach this historic moment in American history and I spent at least 15 minutes drafting lesson plan ideas in my head while I was eating breakfast.

Regardless of who individuals are voting for or if Barack Obama wins the election, I cannot imagine that every American watching that speech was not completely moved by the fact that an African American man is a candidate for President. I had goosebumps and I shed a few tears for sure...it was "awesome" in every sense of the word.

But actually, these days in Kenya I have been dealing with a different kind of politics. This week at work, a UNICEF colleague of mine and I had an extremely disappointing experience with another colleague from a different UN agency. It would be highly unprofessional of me to describe the situation in detail here, but I will say that I learned something very interesting.

You see, I expected that the UN system would be rife with political agendas and motivations, as any institution is. But for some reason, I naively thought that the politics at the UN would be different from other politics I have experienced...somehow more mature or worldy. This, as I learned this week, turns out to be completely untrue. The politics at the UN are the same as the politics of a high school in NYC or Washington, DC, the same as the politics at a major private university, and the same as the politics of an American small-town's musical theater company. Some people with a relative degree of power here defend it with their lives, at all costs, and at whatever expense it is to their colleagues. At this point, I am now in the middle of an unexpected and undesired battle, which will hopefully be resolved with mediation from high level administration on Monday. Sheesh! And I am just a consultant - I thought there would be no stress!

That's most of the news from Nairobi this week. Kristoffer has been a little less busy at work this week than last week, or at least he is going in to the office a little bit later than he was last week! We bought some furniture for our house from some friends who are moving back to Denmark today so we are only one room away from being fully furnished at this point. Sadly, it looks as though our efforts with a second internet company are failing and we will need to start our search again, or resign ourselves to not having internet at home. This seems unacceptable to me so I think we won't give up the fight just yet...perhaps we just need to change tactics.

Kenya is certainly proud today of its favorite "half-son" today (Barack Obama, that is) and, again regardless of political affiliation, I think all Americans should be too!

LMW

Wednesday, August 20, 2008

August 20, 2008 - Good news!

Well...finally in today's paper, Kenya's Minister of Education spoke out AGAINST the reintroduction of caning schools, said that it would reverse the positive effects of the Children's Act 2001, and said that teachers are responsible for ensuring that children are not harmed while they are in school (either by teachers or other children)!!! I am so happy! Granted, perhaps I have taken this issue a little bit too closely to heart, but it is a huge relief to know that there are intelligent, sensible politicians in this country who can see when a policy decision would be seriously detrimental to society. Instead of reintroducing caning, the Ministry of Education is introducing new safety policies to assist in decreasing acts of student violence, drugs, and alcohol in schools.

In other news, it is a very busy week for Kristoffer, who is facilitating a School Feeding Programme training of all the District Education Officers (DEOs) who have jurisdiction in areas where WFP feeds children. It is a 4 day affair that has required him to leave the house in the dark and come home in the dark too! It is great experience for him though, is introducing him to many educational players throughout the country, and has probably increased his profile within WFP. Go him! But I'm sure he'll be happy to get a little more sleep next week!

We are also getting ready to have more visitors in a few weeks! Our great friends Morten, Morten, and Elsebeth from Denmark are coming to visit us! We are so excited - our first non-family visitors! Maybe we'll ask them to post a blog about how great it is here so that more of you will come :)

LMW

Thursday, August 14, 2008

August 14, 2008 - 28 will be great!

Hi there! I realized today that I haven't blogged since my "caning in Nairobi" tirade and that wasn't a very nice way to leave you. The update on that is that some groups have spoken out passionately against it (thank you very much) but the Ministry of Education is still remaining silent on the change in policy. Silence on such an issue is never good.

Work is really busy for Kristoffer these days. He has the possibility of travelling to South Africa and Uganda in upcoming months for different conferences, both which would be very good experiences for him (and they will certainly look good on the old resume too). We are hoping that they work out. Because of rising food and oil prices, as well as food shortages here in Kenya, his job is a bit stressful these days. WFP's budget is essentially the same size, but the money is buying a lot less than it used to - especially factoring in enormous transport costs. So he is basically trying to push their money as far as it can go in order to feed as many children as possible. Not an easy task.

Work for me is picking up a bit. At least I am getting paid now! One of the things I deal with is constantly being in meetings with humanitarian stakeholders who are talking about the "reality on the ground" for displaced people in Kenya, which even at this distance from the post election violence is really not good...and then at the same time I attend meetings with high level government officials who say that the situation on the ground is improving, people are happy and getting back to their lives, and the government is doing a great job facilitating the resettlement. There always seem to be a conflict between the truth and the perception that government would like people to have. Of course we (UNICEF) are worried about the displaced children, a large and surprising percentage of whom are separated from their guardians and participating in risky behaviors or have become the victims of various crimes against them, and the atrocious conditions they are living under right now. My job is not glamorous or high profile, but I keep track of a lot of information and hopefully I am helping in a small way.

We had some American visitors this week! Two of my dearest high school teachers with whom I keep in touch - Craig Simpson and Kathy Cook of Andover High School fame - have friends from Sante Fe, New Mexico who were coming here for a 2 week safari. I had been updating them on security in the country earlier in the year, and so we got together for a lovely dinner when they stopped over in Nairobi before their safari began. It was really nice to meet new people with whom we have a friendly connection and to share a bit of our knowledge of this country with them before their big adventure. Thanks to Craig and Kathy for putting us in touch!

Since my last blog I also had a birthday (yesterday)! 27 was certainly interesting for me as a newlywed with two big moves, two new jobs, and two heart surgeries! I would say it was an eventful year indeed and look forward to seeing if 28 turns out to be as exciting!

LMW

p.s. The installation of internet at home has begun...but technical difficulties abound so it is not quite working yet. I promise more pictures (and maybe a working slideshow!) as soon as we have the capabilities. Plus we will look forward to some conversations on Skype as soon as possible!

Monday, August 4, 2008

August 4, 2008 - Too Much Freedom in Kenya

Kristoffer and I are back to work this Monday after a restful weekend. We continue to make improvements on our house and with the purchase of a new piece of furniture and some art this weekend, our upstairs living room is finished but for the perfect curtains (we are still hunting!). I am happy that today will be my second day of PAID work at UNICEF (wow that feels good!) and all is definitely well.

Unless you are a student in Kenya. Excuse my tirade for a few minutes, but I am horribly outraged by a decision made by the Cabinet (the President and Prime Minister's top ministers) last week to re-introduce the caning of students, or beating students with a stick, back into schools. To give some background on this matter, caning was outlawed in Kenya by the Children's Act of 2001, which increased the rights and protections of Kenyan students. This was seen to be groundbreaking legislation on the continent and furthered the world's view of Kenya as one of the most progressive African countries. In the last month, though, Kenya has been plagued by secondary student unrest, riots, protests, school vandalism and arson [all put under the category in Kenya of “mass action”].

There are many reasons for the students' anger: botched national exam scores last year, untimely mock national exams this year, overcrowded classrooms and limited resources, emotional trauma resulting from the post-election violence, to name a few. And the majority of Kenyans, not just a select few, believe that the reason for these disturbances is because teachers are not allowed to cane students. Now, I am not condoning the violence that students have committed because they have caused millions of dollars in damaged or destroyed property, have injured and killed students, and have completely interrupted an already difficult academic year; but instead of looking at the institutional reasons why schools in Kenya are failing students, the government would prefer to just blame the problems on the students and the fact that teachers can’t beat them into submission. And while it is deplorable that students have committed these crimes, who are their role models?!?! Politicians who financed and supported tribal violence that left over 1,000 people dead and close to a million people homeless after a completely un-free and unfair election!

To quote the Minister of Energy, a Cabinet member, in yesterday’s paper speaking on the reintroduction of caning, “We met as Cabinet last week and what we observed is that there is too much democracy that is quickly descending into anarchy. There is too much freedom in this country and what we are witnessing in schools is just a reflection of the larger society…The Cabinet has decided and teachers should listen to this: Let us not have child kings and queens in our schools, you spare the rod and you spoil the child…If a child does something wrong, he or she must be caned. As a Government we have said discipline has to be enforced in our schools.”
Too much democracy? Are you kidding me? I suppose that quote really says a lot about Kenya, but after 8 months I am still shocked! Sometimes I feel like this country is so backwards! And while many people think (Kenyans and many throughout the world…at least previously) that Kenya is such a great example for other nations, I think that is a load of crap! The government is just as hypocritical and corrupt as those in other African or developing countries. To make such progress by banning such inhumane treatment of students was wonderful, but to reverse the decision seven years later is worse than if they had never gotten rid of it at all. The fact that so many Kenyans support this decision – including Kenyans that Kristoffer and I know – makes the reality that much more appalling.

Okay…I suppose I’ll step down off my soap box now. I should be very productive at work today now that I’m all fired up!

LMW

Wednesday, July 30, 2008

July 30, 2008 - Safari Pictures!

I am starting to get my act together on the pictures, even though we still don't have internet at home (grrrr). I will post them slowly so that you aren't overwhelmed all at once. This is a slideshow of pictures from our safari to the Masai Mara with Kirsten and Hans. The last few pictures also show the drive we took around Lake Nakuru. Hans gets full credit for all of the pictures - he is a great photographer and saved us from the miscommunication Kristoffer and I had of not packing our camera! The lions were definitely my favorite part, and there are some amazing pictures here that really show off just how beautiful they were.



Enjoy!
LMW

Monday, July 28, 2008

July 28, 2008 - My contract!

It was a sad morning in Nairobi for sure when Kirsten and Hans left us to go back to Denmark, but the sun broke through the clouds a bit when I arrived at UNICEF to find that my contract was finally ready! It has been signed and sealed and as of Friday (August 1st) I am employed and paid by UNICEF for two months! This is great news because it will give me more credibility within UNICEF and for future work in Nairobi after this contract. Kristoffer and I are both happy, relieved and looking forward to the work I will be doing to assist UNICEF's efforts to provide basic education rights to children in post-election Kenya. I am also feeling fully recovered from my heart surgeries and my former sleeping disorder is completely resolved.

All is definitely well!
LMW

Sunday, July 27, 2008

July 27, 2008 - By Grace part 2

Kristoffer and I assured the women at By Grace that we would share their website and story with as many people as possible, and now that I have the website for you I will do so.

The website of the actual orphange is http://www.bygracecentre.org/. One thing that I didn't realize because it wasn't talked about so much when we were at the orphanage was that most, if not all, of the 250 children living at By Grace were orphaned by HIV/AIDS. 10% of Nairobi's population is infected with HIV/AIDS, which is higher than the country's average (6.1% of adults) because so many of the country's poorest people live in the slums of Nairobi where the disease is rampant.

Another interesting and useful website is http://www.brightfuturechildren.org/, an American organization that facilitates fundraising and volunteer efforts that benefit By Grace directly. The woman we met, Pixie, for example, is a volunteer through that organization. I know that many good causes are competing for your financial interests, but f you are interested in contributing to a project in Africa at all now or in the future, we can confirm that this is a worthwhile cause.

Kirsten and Hans leave us tomorrow and we will be in mourning for the week :) Yesterday we took them on a game drive through the Nairobi national park. We didn't see any big game like lions or rhinos (We never see them at the park! I am not convinced that there really are any!), but we did see the MOST interesting giraffe fight ever! It must be very rare to catch two giraffes in a physical fight, especially because they are animals with very good dispositions!, but we were just so lucky. They were pushing each other with their behinds and swinging their necks at each other's neck to try and inflict pain. We watched for a long time and it was totally fascinating. I am hoping to get our internet at home this week (do I sound like a broken record) and will try to post a video of the fight! Tonight we will go out to dinner for one last hurrah before Kirsten and Hans travel!

LMW

Wednesday, July 23, 2008

July 23, 2008 - By Grace

Our visit with Kristoffer's Mom and Hans continues to be eventful. On Saturday, the three of them spent the day climbing up and around Mt. Longonot, a volcanic crater just north of Nairobi. Kristoffer and I had climbed it in March (going up takes about 90 minutes) but had not climbed the rim of the crater (takes about 3 hours). The three of them, however, had a beautiful day for a climb and managed to do the whole thing (although their legs were sore the next day. It is a steep climb!). When Kristoffer and I climbed it we had only seen one lone giraffe, but this time they saw more wildlife.


The next day, the four of us visited an orphanage on the outskirts of Nairobi called "By Grace". At the WFP, Kristoffer is the "focal point" for developing relationships with orphanages and trying to find ways that the WFP can partner with them to assist more Kenyan children. Some of the women involved with By Grace, Jane (a Kenyan woman) and Pixie (an American volunteer), invited Kristoffer to come see the orphanage and so he decided to do it on the weekend and bring us with him.


Let me say, first of all, that I am sure there are hundreds of orphanages like this one in and around Nairobi but because this is the only one we've been to we happen to think that it is a special place. The actual orphanage is in a poor neighborhood, although not quite a slum, and its physical building is 3 floors and very run-down (actually disgusting, in my opinion). The 250 children who live at By Grace sleep in the rooms at night that are their classrooms during the school day and live with poor water and sanitation conditions. There are an additional 150+ children who do not live there but do come to By Grace for school, which follows the Kenya national curriculum taught by volunteer teachers. It is very hard to imagine that the conditions we saw, which were dirty and smelled like sewage, were better than other conditions the children might find themselves in if they were not living there.


After getting the tour of the orphanage and learning a bit about how the orphanage started (the "Mama" of the orphanage originally started taking street children into her own home, but then ran out of space and secured donations to rent the building across the street where the orphanage has been since 2002), we were greeted in their "play yard" (a small alley made of gravel) by all 250 resident orphans. They made several presentations to us of dancing and singing (it is a Christian orphanage so all performances were of a religious nature) before we each had to say something to the group. Kristoffer was a bit hit with the kids offering them advice on staying in school! I can honestly say that Kirsten and I were in tears when the children were singing to us about how hard their lives have been and how they have been saved by Jesus. It was extremely emotional to see these children, of all ages, living in squalor, who appeared to be so happy and grateful for their lives.


When all of this was over, each child came and shook each of our hands and thanked us for visiting them. Before leaving for the day, the leaders took us to see a plot of land nearby that they are hoping to buy; if they get this land they will build proper classrooms, dormitories, a play yard, etc. The work that these women do to provide a basic life and some security for these children is incredible, especially knowing that most of them would out of school, living on the street, or even not alive if not for By Grace. Hans and Kirsten were able to make a small donation to the orphanage that day, money that would be used to buy some fruit for the children to eat (they mostly eat 2 meals a day of rice or corn meal with fruit, meat, and milk as very rare treats). Kristoffer and I are hoping to establish a more consistent donation to the orphanage in the future.


I should mention something very interesting: based on a conversation we had with a Kenyan man back in January, Kristoffer and I knew that Kenyans are very opposed to international adoption. Kenyans believe that staying in your culture/tribe/family is the most important thing and if westerners adopt babies and bring them to other continents they consider that child to basically be stolen (Kenyans are not big Madonna fans, even though she adopted from Malawi). If a child has any family or tribe, those people will care for the child and a child should only end up in an orphanage under dire circumstances. OK fine - this we knew. But I asked the head teacher at By Grace if children were ever adopted domestically from this orphanage, and he was equally opposed to such a scenario. It appears that regular Kenyans wouldn't think to adopt from an orphanage (which seems very sad to me) and the orphanage strives to provide education and computer skill training in the absences of college so that children can get jobs when they are older and take care of themselves. Some of the children in the orphanage have relatives that visit or bring them home around the holidays, but usually the families are so poor or sick that they really cannot care for the children at all or the children have no living relatives.

It was both a heartbreaking and heartwarming experience for us to visit By Grace and I am sure we will back again! As soon as I am able, I will post pictures of our visit. I know I have a lot of pictures to post (house, Masai Mara, orphanage - yikes!)! Kirsten and Hans have been visiting the island of Lamu for the past few days and they will rejoin us in Nairobi tonight until they head back to Denmark on Monday. We miss them a lot when they leave and are wondering who our next visitor(s) will be!

LMW

Wednesday, July 16, 2008

July 16, 2008 - Masai Mara Safari

On Friday morning, Kristoffer, Kirsten, Hans and I left from Nairobi to embark on a true Kenyan safari to the Masai Mara in south western Kenya, on the border of Tanzania. The word Mara means “spotted” in the Masai language and this part of Kenya is called “the Mara” because the land is mostly open plains spotted by trees and animals. The land is also the native home of the Masai tribe – pastoralists who raise cows, goats, and sheep and live what we would consider to be a very primitive lifestyle (more on that to come). People from all over the world come to the Mara between July and October to see the “Great Migration” of around 1.3 million wildebeest (called “gnu” in both Swahili and Danish) and zebra across the Mara River from the Serengeti in Tanzania to Kenya. We were a little too early for the migration, but we did see thousands and thousands of “resident” wildebeest and zebra for sure.

The drive from Nairobi takes about 5 ½ hours and, to be honest, is not entirely pleasant. We wanted to see new parts of Kenya and so we made the journey by car…but we totally get why most other people fly! Most of the trip is just horribly bumpy, pot-holed, rough terrain but we did hit a few strips of good tarmac. It was pretty cool to see how much the country changes between Nairobi and the Mara; there is a town called “Narok” which is a transportation hub as it is the last place for fuel (or pretty much anything else!) before getting to the Mara and I think Kirsten and Hans were really fascinated to see all of the activity in this small town.

We arrived at the Karen Blixen Camp (www.karenblixencamp.com) in time for lunch; the reason for staying at this camp went beyond just the usual Karen Blixen Danish connection. We actually know the young Danish couple who own and operate this luxury camp (which is about two years old). The camp is located at a narrow point on the Mara River and from the main reception/dining tent we had amazing, daily views of 46 resident hippos, two crocodiles, and frequent visitors to the river such as zebra, elephants, giraffe, gazelles, impala, and baboons. It was easy to sit on the beautiful lawn and overlook the wildlife activity for hours. Also, our tents were amazing (and were bigger than my last apartment in Brooklyn)! The 22 tents at the camp have thatched roofs and inside look like rustic, old-school hotel rooms, complete with outdoor showers (heaven!). At night time you aren’t allowed to walk from your tent to the main tent without being accompanied by Masai guards, because the camp gets visits from hippos, lions, and other friends at night. The food was quite good and we definitely felt spoiled to stay in such an amazing camp.

Friday afternoon after we got settled, we met our Masai guide, Peter. Most people who come to the camp don’t have their own cars, so they are going in land cruisers with guides from the camp and other safari agencies. Because we had our own car, Peter came with us on all of our game drives to take us to places where we would be more likely to see specific animals than if we were venturing out on our own. Just like the guide Kristoffer and I had when we went to Naivasha at Christmas, Peter was amazing. Throughout our three days of driving with him, we learned so much about Kenyan animals and life on the Mara, the Masai people, the relationship between the Masai and Kenya’s tourism industry, and the changes that are taking place in traditional Masai culture.

Our first game drive was not very lucky – we didn’t see too many new and exciting animals, but Kirsten and Hans did see their first giraffe as we headed back to the camp in a rain storm. The second day, however, was very exciting. In the morning we took a lovely, peaceful nature walk with Peter and learned a bit about trees, plants and flowers, birds and some animals (from their dung and footprints!). In the afternoon, we took a game drive to a different area and finally came across our very first Kenyan lions! They were three lionesses, actually, resting within some bushes shaded from the afternoon sun. Two of them stayed asleep the whole time we were up close watching them, but one of them looked at us a bit more, even sitting all the way up to check us out at one point. They were so beautiful that I was shaking! That afternoon we also saw a live kill – not by lions, though, but we saw two jackals (sort of like foxes) hunt and kill a young gazelle. Of course, we were tempted to feel really bad for the little gazelle…but that is nature! We also came across a large herd of elephants that afternoon and enjoyed watching them eat so up close. What a day!

As if our second game drive hadn’t been enough, our third game drive was an even greater adventure. We left the camp at 6:30 in the morning with a packed breakfast to eat later in the morning. Our plan was to drive a bit of distance to this mountain park where some white rhinos live, and on the way we hoped to see some animals in the early morning hours. Well our hopes certainly came true! We quickly saw two lionesses (possibly two of the ones we had seen the day before) hunting for food. We didn’t see them kill anything, but in the surrounding area we could sense that all of the other animals were VERY tense as we watched the lions stalk through the high grass. As we continued driving, Hans noticed that there were two males lions in the grass. Good spot, Hans! Not only were they lying there but they were also feasting on a zebra! We parked to watch these amazing creatures, when another male lion approached and walked right in front of our car. When he joined his brothers, one of them left the group and walked behind our car. We could also see another female lioness in the distance. It was incredible! We were so lucky!

As we continued towards the rhinos we saw many, many hyena (which are usually hard to find in the day but it was still early morning) and they were actually eating a wildebeest! Such scavengers! And the vultures were all around them waiting for leftovers. We kept thinking that our day could not get any better! We did eventually stop in a hyena/lion-free area to eat our breakfast, and we had a beautiful view of some giraffes as we did so. If you have never eaten a packed breakfast out in the middle of the African bush, you should really try it! It was a little windy but the car provided some relief and it was extremely refreshing. We did finally make it to those rhinos and, of the four that live in that area, we saw three of them: one female, one male, and one baby. We were actually outside of our car walking with a guide and came across them so closely! But these rhinos must be somewhat used to humans because they were extremely tame and didn’t seem to either notice or be bothered by us. The baby rhino, we learned, was born during the post-election crisis when Kofi Annan was in Kenya to mediate the political stalemate; as it turns out, the guides who work there call this baby rhino Kofi Annan.

Our morning was amazing, but before we headed back to camp we paid a visit to a local Masai village. The village we went to is made up of about 25 families. Physically, the village was a large circle constructed of thick tree branches. Just inside were 25 huts/houses made of cow-dung around the circle with a completely open and empty center full of cow/goat/sheep DUNG because that is where the animals sleep at night. The thick branches protect the people and animals from animal predators at night, and then the young boys take the cattle out to graze and eat for the entire day. In order to get into the village, visitors (aka white people/mzungu) have to pay a fee – this money is crucial to the Masai’s economic survival. Once Kristoffer negotiated our price, our guide Peter introduced us to a young man named Elliot, who lived in this village and would be our guide inside. We learned that Elliot, 16, is the only boy in the whole village to go to secondary school and that he has aspirations of becoming a teacher. It sounded to us like Elliot is very eager to get out of his village – he said that it not his hope to live there when he gets older. It sort of made us wonder how the other young men, who did not get good marks in primary school, feel about having to stay in their village for the rest of their lives now.

We were greeted in the village by all of the women singing us a “Welcome Mzungu” song (literally…they sang the word for welcome in Masai over and over again followed by the word mzungu). Then the young men came out and did a traditional Masai Warrior dance and chant (which involves a lot of jumping). We noticed that one of the young men was wearing the mane of a lion as a hat on his head and were told that he is the oldest son of the village’s chief and in that position had to kill a lion, whose mane he was wearing. Later, we saw the scars he had on his body from the attack and learned that he had been in the hospital for 2 months recovering from the fight with the lion (which he won! How crazy is that?). Then we were encouraged to join the whole group in some singing and “dancing” (more like holding hands and walking around the cow-dung circle) for a little while and the women put jewelry on me and Kirsten. Note that we did not meet any of the Masai men – only women, older boys/young men, and small children/babies were around. And let me tell you how cute these babies were…except that it was a little bit heartbreaking to see them with bugs and flies all over them (but when you live in cow dung… that’s what you get).

Now the thing about this whole Masai greeting is that they were definitely putting on this “show” for us because we paid to come into the village to look at their life, and that is totally fine. They do actually live in that village, their houses are actually made of cow dung, and by our Western standards this was extreme poverty – that is not fake! But we sort of knew that they were putting on this show in their traditional clothes and jewelry for our benefit only, so we were all just kind of playing along. Underneath their traditional red clothing (cloth and blankets tied in various ways), the boys were all wearing shorts and t-shirts. I think the women’s clothing was a bit more “every day”. After the show we got a tour of one of their houses….talk about small, dark, and crowded! There were several small rooms in the house: one for baby goats and sheep to sleep (yes in the hut), one for the eldest son to sleep, one for the parents to sleep, one for all other children to sleep, and a room for cooking. After this tour, the women set up their jewelry and other traditional Masai keepsakes for us to browse through and buy. Their prices were SOOOO much higher than the prices we pay for the same stuff at the Masai Market in Nairobi so we didn’t buy too much (which to their dismay).

It was really an interesting experience – their culture is just so far from anything we could really ever imagine living. We also learned a lot about the Masai from Peter throughout our days with him. Older Masai traditionally only eat the milk, blood, and meat of their cattle, but younger Masai are eating more and different things, such as maize and rice (courtesy of programs like school feeding). The Masai still largely practice arranged marriages, as well as female circumcision. Peter could not believe it when we told him that in our countries female circumcision is illegal! The villages don’t have electricity and when the men want to trade or sell their cattle (which they are not largely in the practice of doing…they use cattle for celebrations/sacrifices/and making deals such as marriage dowries), they have to walk close to 100 km to the town of Narok to do so. But Peter also told us of some change that is happening within the Masai. For example, because he is educated (after secondary school he went to school to become a guide), he is allowed to choose his own wife and he does not have the same ear piercings (large, large holes) that non-educated Masai men have. The diet of young Masai is changing, and technology is making an impact so that some Masai even have cell phones. On the other hand, however, girls are still rarely educated in this culture and are not valued in the same way as boys.

After three days of these experiences, we were ready to leave on Monday morning. We were so grateful for Peter and for all of the amazing things we saw, as well as for the lavish hospitality of the Karen Blixen Camp. Our plan was to drive north from Narok to the city of Nakuru and to stay over night in the park there on Lake Nakuru. However, we couldn’t find affordable lodging for the night so we just drove up and around the Lake before heading back to Nairobi on Monday night. The national park around Lake Nakuru is known for having a lot of buffalo, rhino, flamingoes, and pelicans! We saw all of these animals in abundance here. In addition, we also saw about 5 more lions sitting right by the side of the path (literally, we almost missed them!), some more hyenas and giraffe. All in all, I think we saw every possible animal except for leopards and cheetah, which are extremely difficult to spot.

What a trip! After twelve hours of driving on Monday we were definitely tired (especially Kristoffer, who did all of the actual driving). Our big activity yesterday was picking out and ordering curtains for our entire house (with very helpful input from Kirsten and Hans) and having our new sofa for our upstairs living room delivered. It turned out beautifully! We love it and eagerly showed it off to our neighbors last night!

Kirsten and Hans have been here for one week and have seen and done so much! It was a great holiday and on Sunday they will be going to the beach island of Lamu for a few days by themselves. Kristoffer and I will stay back in Nairobi and enjoy our new sofa.

LMW

Thursday, July 10, 2008

July 10, 2008 - Visitors!

Kristoffer and I celebrated our first wedding anniversary on Sunday - thank you to many people for their best wishes. In our first year of marriage we have rented two apartments and one house, lived on two continents (the latter of which is a continent to which neither of us is native), started three different jobs between us (two for me, one for Kristoffer), bought our first car, become residents of a foreign country...and so much more. All in all, an amazing year that neither of us could have predicted.

Our anniversary was followed by the arrival of Kristoffer's mom, Kirsten, and her husband, Hans. Sadly for them, they had a HORRIBLE trip here. They were flying through London (Heathrow), which is often a nightmare in good weather but turned out particularly miserable because there was a storm. They weren't able to land because of the weather and had to go to another, smaller airport where they waited for hours to get their luggage and then had to take a bus to Heathrow. They arrived too late to make their connection (obviously!) and had a difficult time getting another flight to Nairobi. Who knew all the flights would be sold out - I guess people are starting to come back to Kenya now since the election. Anyway, they ended up getting on the flight 24 hours after their original connection so they arrived in Nairobi 24 hours late. They were in desperate need of sleep (no hotels room were available for them) and showers but were otherwise in good shape. On our end, we didn't get the message that they missed their flight on time, so we waited at the Nairobi airport for them for 3 hours before getting the information that would not be coming in as expected. It was the most disappointing airport trip ever - who goes to airport and leaves without the people they were supposed to pick up?! We were sad, but relieved that they were ok.

Since they arrived yesterday morning, we have given them a tour of the United Nations and taken them to one of our favorite restaurants. They visited the Karen Blixen Museum today on their own and they played tennis and swam at our gym. They seem to really like our house (which makes us feel great!) and we are just really enjoying having them with us. Last night we had "Christmas in July" because they brought us Christmas and birthday gifts from them and other family members - it was SOOOO fun! We were like little kids :) Tomorrow we leave for the Masai Mara where will go on a proper safari and stay in a nicely tented camp owned and run by some Danes we know here. It is actually called "the Karen Blixen Camp". I hope to report back with new pictures and stories - remember, something is always happening over here!

LMW

p.s. internet is being installed at our house this weekend - phew!

Friday, July 4, 2008

July 4, 2008 - Happy 4th of July!

While it is not Independence Day here in Kenya (that holiday is in December) it is certainly on my mind that my friends and family at home will be attending BBQs and watching fireworks today! It was just a normal working day here. I went to a meeting this morning and walked for an hour on the treadmill at the gym this afternoon. In 2 more weeks I can start exercising for real and I am very much looking forward to that. I fear that I have started to become a bit of a blob in the last two months!

On Wednesday, our cleaning woman, Catherine, started her work with us. When she came to the house, she and I then went to store to buy all of the supplies she would need, along with a uniform for her. Catherine was very happy with all of this, but I will admit that it was a very strange experience for me. She then proceeded to give our big house a good scrub which it really needed! As her frequency increases (by the fall she will be coming 3 times a week) and she can help with hanging up laundry (I cannot reach our clothes lines without a chair) and ironing I will be even more grateful. I think this was a good solution for us instead of having a full time person living with us.

We have also made progress towards getting internet at our house. We have found a good deal through the UN with a corporate internet service provider that is just starting to provide residential internet access. It is signficantly cheaper than the company we were using before so we are really happy about it; now we are just waiting for the appointment date and time.

Tonight we're having dinner at our neighbor's house (an American guy whose wife and kids are in the US for the summer) with our other neighbors and friends, Mike and Caroline (I worked with Mike at UNICEF in February and March), which we hope to be a very fun time. Making friends is good for us!

Happy 4th of July and have a great weekend :)
LMW

Monday, June 30, 2008

June 30, 2008 - Couches, camels, and crashes! (actually only one crash)

Kristoffer and I are never short on adventure here in Nairobi. This weekend we had the goal of falling in love with some furniture...but as you can imagine, it is very difficult to plan falling in love! Our Saturday started with the door-to-door paying of some bills and led us to our hunt for the perfect couch (sofa) for our upstairs living room where we have our television. One couch that we liked a lot turned out to be too large for the space and the only other couch that we liked had been sold to someone else during the week. No! I was very frustrated, but Kristoffer kept hope alive even though we had already gone to every place we knew of that sells furniture. Luckily, there was an advertisement posted on a bulletin board at one of our malls with pictures of nice looking furniture. When he called the number, Kristoffer talked to a guy named Michael, who planned to meet with us about making some high quality furniture (as opposed to the furniture we bought when we were first lived here which is very poor quality).

Before meeting him though, he directed us to an up-scale interior design store to which he supplies the furniture they sell. At the store, we really did love several couches and other pieces of furniture, which had all been made by his company. They were simple, modern, comfortable, attractive, and not tacky (the biggest problem with most furniture here!) but at the store the price tags were very high. When we met with Michael later in the day we were able to custom design the couch for our living room and cut the price tag nearly in half by dealing with him directly instead of ordering from the store. How great! They started making the couch today - a large off-white sectional sofa that will fit beautifully in our cozy room (sorry to my friend Marcie who does not approve of sectional couches) - and it should be done in about 3 weeks. Once we get that and are happy with it, we will proceed to design more furniture with him for our downstairs living room and maybe some other spaces too. It started off as a frustrating day but turned out to be better than we even expected!

As we were driving around Nairobi hunting for couches, we came across the strangest sight. If only we had a camera with us (we keep saying we should keep one in the car at all times, but then we forget!) we would post the picture of 3 camels walking around Nairobi. Camels! Now Kristoffer has seen camels in eastern Kenya on the border of Somalia where they are very common and necessary to the way of life there, but here in the city?! It was totally bizarre, and they were definitely causing traffic!

Speaking of traffic...Kenya, and Nairobi in particular, is known for horrible traffic and a very high number of RTAs...random traffic accidents. Well last night, we were in our first traffic accident here, and actually Kristoffer's first accident ever. Don't get worried, we are totally fine and our car is fine too - it was just a very crazy incident. We were driving home from the mall in the late afternoon and we were on the main road where we had the right of way. We approached a T-stop intersection where we were turning right. Kristoffer had signaled and slowed down as he should have, but there was a car at the intersection turning right onto the main road and he basically didn't wait for us to complete our turn before he advanced through the intersection. The reason it was so bizarre is because he was there waiting, waiting, and waiting to turn as we approached but he just didn't wait long enough and ended up hitting us! Because our car is so big and high up, he just hit our back right tire and there was no damage to our vehicle, but the front left side of his car was mildly crunched. At that intersection there are all of these guys who wear bright yellow vests and sit by the side of the road and we always wonder what they are doing there. Well it turns out they sit there to observe the traffic and witness accidents - or at least that was their function last night. They immediately came over to us when our accident stopped traffic and spoke to Kristoffer as well as the Kenyan driver. It was obviously the other guy's fault which they said repeatedly; the guy didn't want to call any authorities because either he didn't have a license (which is very common here) or he didn't want the accident to count against his license, as it definitely would have. So Kristoffer agreed that our car was fine and this guy agreed that it was his fault, and we both went on our way. The whole ride home we were like, "Did that just happen?! He waited and waited until we were right there and THEN he pulled out?!" We were reminded that even when you are doing everything right here, you can't really trust other people to do the right thing because people seem to follow their own rules. It was just so bizarre. But now we have survived an RTA in Kenya and we hope there are no more to come, or at least that future accidents are as minimal as that one.

Yesterday was also the day that we interviewed Mary to be our housekeeper and cook. The interview wasn't horrible, but it didn't go that well. I think basically we didn't do enough research or talk to enough people about how these things usually go, so she had a little too much control over the situation. I am sure she would be a good cook and would keep our house very clean and orderly, but she wanted to live with us along with her 3 year old daughter and a girl who would live there to take care of the daughter while Mary was doing the housework. We are not quite ready to have 3 people living with us at this stage, and she wanted more money than we expected given that we would pay for all of her food and provide her with mattresses, uniforms, and a stove to cook on (apparently domestic staff would not cook their own food in our kitchen). So instead of hiring Mary, we are trying to hire a different woman who has worked for a Danish friend for a long time. The friend is getting ready to move back to Denmark though, so we are basically trying to hijack his help before someone else snaps her up! If it works out, she will come once a week until September, and then will come 3 days a week to clean, do laundry and ironing, and cook dinner on those days. She doesn't want to live with us, which is okay by us. We are really hoping this works out and think it is a good way to see how we like having staff first before ramping up to hire someone full time in the future. There are only two of us, after all, and we aren't THAT messy!

The only other interesting, although sad, news is that a Danish woman we know who is in Kristoffer's program with the World Health Organization was the victim of domestic violence last week. She had been living with her boyfriend, a Ugandan-born Kenyan resident who played basketball at the University of Notre Dame in the US during his college years. We aren't sure of the timeline, but essentially she broke up with him and afterwards he attacked her and tried to strangle her to death. She fought back, apparently biting his finger until he let go of her, and managed to escape. As horrible as this is, the worst part is that before she had a chance to report this to the police, he went and bribed the local and diplomatic police officers and pressed charges against her for biting him. So the police, to date, won't help her because the guy paid them off and in fact they are threatening her with jail time because she bit him. It is a horribly screwed up system! The Danish Embassy, much to Kristoffer's dismay, was not very helpful and did not really want to get involved. Luckily, our Danish friends who are close to her have gotten her legal help within the UN system and they should get everything sorted out soon, but needless to say it was an extremely sad and scary incident. We heard today that her sister came from Denmark to be with her through this ordeal and she is staying with our friends indefinitely.

As I started with, there is always something bizarre happening here! On Thursday I will start working on and off for the next month and will then be full time in August. Even though my contract at UNICEF won't be official for a few more weeks, my boss said I could start counting my days now for which I will be paid retroactively. I still have a crazy sleeping problem but last night I drank almost a whole bottle of wine before bed and yes, I did sleep very well for the first time in a long time. I don't think I should make that too much of a habit...but we'll see. Otherwise, I am feeling well and am eager to have things to do both for work and with Kristoffer's mom when she visits. It is a beautiful, sunny, warm winter's afternoon (it is at least 75 F) here in Nairobi and so I think I will go for a walk at the gym.

LMW

Sunday, June 29, 2008

June 29, 2008 - 5 Years!

So...Kristoffer and I met five years ago today. Maybe it is a silly anniversary to remember, except that we have changed so much since we met! Last night we played a game as we were falling asleep (well, Kristoffer was falling asleep and I was just getting ready for my night of resting but not sleeping) to list all of the things that are different about the other person since we met. Our lists were so long! When we met I hadn't moved to NYC or started teaching yet, Kristoffer hadn't finished his master's degrees, we were both eating meat, and both of us weighed more than we do now! Those are only small things of course, but it is fun to think back on the last 5 years and how we got to where we are in Nairobi, Kenya now. I can remember one of our first conversations when Kristoffer told me that he always hoped to someday live and work in Africa. He did a great job making that dream come true!

Just a quick stop at the UN today but now we are off to go interview our housekeeper. More stories on furniture and camels to follow in the next blog...

LMW

Thursday, June 26, 2008

June 26, 2008 - Expats

There are some really great things about living in our house. For me, I love that we can walk on our street. It is very quiet with compounds of houses only (no apartments) and so much security. Our security guards call Kristoffer "Mr. Kris" (which he can't decide if he likes or not) and they are more strict about letting people into the compound than at our old apartment (which is a good thing). Christine said that it was like "Fort Knox" getting in to our house the first time she came. The compound is very secluded and quiet. We have already gone on two nice long walks, and Kristoffer has even gone for a morning run! Another thing I love is that our compound has a generator because, even though we lose power just as often as we did in the apartment, the generator kicks in right away and power is restored immediately. It feels like a luxury here but I am loving it! I will not miss 8 hour power outages for sure!

Speaking of luxury...we are finally caving in to the pressures of living in a developing country and are going to hire "staff". Our house comes with "SQ" (or servant's quarters) for two people, but I think we will only hire one - and we haven't decided if that one will live with us or not (depends on the person we hire I think). We are interviewing a woman named Mary on Sunday to be our housekeeper and cook. Isn't that SO crazy?!?! If you had ever asked me when I could imagine myself hiring a housekeeper/cook before living in Kenya, I would have cooly answered, "Well...the year after never of course!" And now here I am, imagining how nice it will be not to spend half of every weekend cleaning our big house and food shopping, and half of every night cooking dinner and cleaning it up. Mary supposedly has a license from a catering school and knows several styles of cooking (we'll have to see if one of them is "vegetarian"). If not her, than we'll find someone else. In Kenya, hiring domestic help is a big part of the economy and there is no shortage of (inexpensive) labor. We've also found a driver, named Justice, to use consistently instead of a taxi because he is a little cheaper, and Kristoffer will occasionally employ the compound's gardener to help with our backyard (rent includes maintenance of the greens in the front of our house only). Did I mention that our house has rose bushes?! There are at least 5 of them, in all different colors, and I think they will be really beautiful once we learn how to take care of them. When Kirsten and Hans are here we plan to ask for their help - they are great gardeners!

This week we picked out a paint color and Kristoffer painted one of the walls in our upstairs living room the other night. It is a creamy/orangey/yellowy color - very warm and friendly. It looks great on one wall but might be too strong for much more than that so we will pick out one shade lighter and have some other rooms painted in that (rest of the living room, hallway and entryway, kitchen). I think it will take us awhile to furnish and decorate the house entirely, so right now we are just focusing on key rooms where we spend most of our time. This weekend our hunt for furniture will continue.

As for me, I have come in to the UN three times now. I have to "check out" as a volunteer before starting a consultant's contract; "checking out" means walking around to have all kinds of people who never even knew that I was a volunteer sign off on a piece of paper that I have returned everything I never borrowed from their department (technology stuff, finance stuff, etc.). It actually takes awhile to do this and most people are like "Who are you?" when I ask if they will clear me as a departing volunteer! Sometimes they will give me a little speech about how the UN needs good people and do I really want to check out? That is when I say that I am waiting for my consultant's contract to be processed so the UN isn't losing me, but that I am rather happy to expect a pay check in the near future.

But about that contract...it seems that it had been approved while I was away but that in the last few weeks there has been a salary adjustment, and I will now be getting paid at a higher rate. Because of the new salary, though, the contract has to go through the entire process of being approved again which will take between 2 and 3 more weeks. When it is finally approved, Kristoffer and I expect to be travelling a bit with his mom and Hans. Ideally, I will start working part time next week "off the books" and will then pick up full time "on the books" when Kirsten and Hans leave. It is sort of confusing, but hopefully will work out for the best. I am lucky that UNICEF has been very patient with me and that my boss is still giving me a contract. She is on leave for the next several weeks anyway and I will be working for an Italian woman who is in charge of the education emergency now; from what I understand I will mostly be organizing, analyzing and finding meaningful ways to report data that people have been collecting for months but haven't really done anything with.

Finally, today Kristoffer and I realized that we actually know a lot of people here! This is sort of a surprising revelation to me because I have been gone for awhile and because I still think of us as being new here. During lunch in the UN cafeteria though, a few women I know came over to say hello. Kristoffer had also seen a few people he knew and I found out later today that some of my UNICEF colleagues were watching us eat but I didn't notice them. Kristoffer and I are now sort of having a contest to see which one of us is more popular. As we were leaving we saw two of WFP Danish guys talking to one UNICEF American women and were like, "How do they know each other?!" We joined them briefly and then as we walked away from all of this Kristoffer said, "It is a really small world here, isn't it?" because eventually all expatriates (expats) know all of the other expats!

Before I sign off, I'll just add that I think it is great that Kristoffer has blogged a bit more. He has the great fortune with his job to be able to see parts of Kenya that average tourists and international business people do not see. His views of "real Kenya", as opposed to the happy little expat bubble we live in, are very valuable and I am always grateful when he shares these stories. I also hope to eventually acquire a few stories of my own when I am working more!

LMW