Tuesday, November 3, 2015

November 3, 2015 - The Great Cape (Town) Escape Part 2

Day 3!

One gift that Kristoffer gave me during our trip to Cape Town was:  Robben Island.  I took an amazing class in high school called Odyssey, which was a blend of history, literature, art and culture. We did an indepth unit of study on South Africa and apartheid, and it has always been of special interest to me since that time.  I knew that going to Cape Town, a trip to Robben Island had to happen.  But the trip takes 4 hours and is not very "little kid" friendly.  It is a 4-hour trip involving a round trip ferry ride to and from the island, a bus ride around the island, and a walk through some parts of the prison.  It was fascinating to say the least, but not super interactive for kids.  I was afraid that some component would go wrong, or Aya would be screaming, or the kids would have a meltdown and ruin the experience for me.  I would have preferred to go with Kristoffer, but he gave me the gift of a morning to myself, knowing how much I wanted to go there.  

The highlight of the trip is that the tour guides on the bus and in the prison are all former prisoners on the island.  One of them, Sedick Levy (prisoner number 60/63 - which means the 60th prisoner in 1963, the year of his incarceration), was my guide on the bus.  He was soft-spoken but passionate.  Seemed like a kind, wise soul.  He was imprisoned on Robben Island for 12 years for activities in protest to apartheid laws.  He was a leader of the Coloured People's Congress, accused by the government of being a terrorist.  His organization eventually merged with other activist political parties to form the Congress Alliance which drafted the Freedom Charter. 

My second guide was Lulamile Madolo (I did not get his prison number but he entered Robben Island in 1977), who had been in prison for 5 years (you can find him here) after participating in the Soweto Uprising of 1976, during which time he and other students refused to be educated in Afrikaans as the language of instruction (an apartheid era law).  He spoke a lot about the terrible conditions of the prison (no or little food, no blankets or bed, etc.) and how the International Red Cross advocated on behalf of the prisoners to improve the conditions during his stay.  It was harder to understand his English than Mr. Levy's.  He seemed harder too.  But both men spoke about forgiveness - and that had a huge impact on me.  They said that forgiveness began in the prison, where very educated prisoners like Nelson Mandela (a lawyer) and other professionals (doctors, lawyers, teachers) taught the uneducated prisoners and even the wardens.  They had a motto: "each one teach one" and made it their priority that when they were free, they would be an educated population who could lead the country out of segregation.   Many men earned multiple higher level degrees while they were in prison.  And the wardens too!  I'll just never forget Mr. Levy talking about forgiving the wardens: "boys", he called them, "who did not even know why we were the enemy."

The view of Cape Town's Table Mountain from the ferry...
South Africa's beautiful flag...
When you get off the ferry on the island, which is a museum and UN World Heritage Site, this is what you see...

I didn't know that before the island was a prison it was a leper colony.  And when they began to build the prison they found that the island was just a mass grave.
Mr. Levy, speaking to us about many of the political prisoners, or prisoners of conscience as they called themselves, on Robben Island.  The most famous prisoner there was Nelson Mandela, who was there for 18 years before being transferred to two other prisons for the next 9 years. Mr. Levy was there for 12 years.
This is the limestone quarry where the prisoners worked.  They were not given any kind of mask or protective eyewear and many of them died of or still live with both lung problems and vision problems.  Mandela himself had several eye surgeries and eventually died of a problem with his lungs, stemming from his years here.  The government knew that the work they were doing would slowly kill them.  In this quarry, you can see a cave...
 This cave is where the men had to go to the bathroom, and where they ate their food.  Wardens would not go in the cave, so it was also the only place where the prisoners could talk freely.  The men agreed that they would try to go to the bathroom in the mornings and evenings only, so that they could use their time in the cave for educating one another and not eat in their own waste. The original prison building was not big enough to house all of the political prisoners the government was incarcerating, so the original prisoners living in that building that had to build the rest of the prison themselves.  When that work was finished, they were just in the quarry moving limestone.
This is Mr. Madolo talking to us inside the prison buildlings.
Here is Nelson Mandela's prison cell. 18 years. 
Below was a prison room for those not in solitary confinement.  All prisoners were given a category (based on the threat they posed the government, I believe) and each category was afforded different privileges.  In this room, there would be men mixed together who were both "coloured" (the term used in South Africa for people who are mixed race) and "Bantu" (used to describe completely African people).  In this room, even those people were given different privileges...coloured men were given more and better food than Bantu men.  They didn't want them to become too close - they wanted the prisoners to feel seperated.  Eventually, in the late 70s and early 80s the prison conditions were improved and instead of sleeping on flat mats on the floor, the bed you see in the back was introduced and the prisoners also had blankets for the first time.  Before the blankets, men would get very sick because it gets really cold there and the windows are open so they would get quite sick with pneumonia, frost bite, etc.


I learned a lot that morning - above is just a bit to share.  It was incredibly powerful to be there.  As I said before, I found the most impact from the former prisoners' statements about forgiveness.  Mr. Levy said something to the affect of:  if I cannot forgive those who jailed me, many of whom were young men who did not know what they were doing, then even when I am free I am still a prisoner.  He said the anti-apartheid movement did strongly believe that all South Africans could be united as one people, under one flag, as equal citizens. Now...whether or not that has happened "perfectly" in real life, is another thing. While I imagine there is still racial tension in the country, and there are definite racial and economic disparities rooted in apartheid, it seems they have done a pretty good job of progressing from and reconciling that time in their history.  (Note that current president, Jacob Zuma, was also incarcerated on Robben Island. He has always had a cloud of controversy around him for such crimes as rape and corruption.) For ex-political prisoners to bear no ill will to those who imprisoned them...well, that was very powerful.  I could almost feel the pulse of being in a very special place - not a happy place, but a very important place.  And, as I said, I'm so grateful to have visited.  I still get goosebumps remembering it and it will stay with me for a long time. 

Meanwhile, Kristoffer and the kiddos had some toy store and ferris wheel fun at the Waterfront (an amazing shopping, cultural, dining area of Cape Town) and I was very happy to hug them all when I got back from the island.






Unfortunately, Noah became sick in the evening - first complaining of a stomach ache and then throwing up several times.  He seemed to have what Aya had.  Once he finished throwing up, he was fine.  Kristoffer and I had gotten a babysitter again to go out to a recommended contemporary Italian restaurant in a cool part of town.  The meal was lovely but I started to not feel well towards the end of the evening, and by the time we got home and said goodbye to the babysitter - it was clear that I had the stomach bug we brought from Dar and I was quite sick during the night!  ACK!  

LMW

Monday, November 2, 2015

November 2, 2015 - The Great Cape (Town) Escape Part I

We are now back in Dar after our Cape Town vacation.  It was fun and exhausting, in equal parts.  Cape Town itself is incredibly beautiful - much more so than I could have imagined.  And there is SO much to do and see and so many places to be!  When we first got off the plane my immediate thought was: am I in Europe?  There is quite a European feel to Cape Town (I can't speak for the rest of South Africa!) but also reminders of Africa all over the place. Cape Town is super developed with access to all the comforts of "home" that we often miss here in Dar...but it is just as much Africa as Dar or Nairobi. 

Let me rewind a tiny bit to say that our trip didn't start off so well.  We were supposed to leave for the airport at 4:30 in the morning.  Went to bed around 11:00 pm the night before after packing and all that.  At 12:30 am Aya woke up screaming horribly.  I couldn't get her back to sleep, couldn't figure out what was wrong.  Nothing seemed to work. Then she started vomiting around 2:00 am.  So that explained the crying.  But we had to clean her up, clean her room, clean me up, and get her back to sleep.  By the time all of that was finished (and a load of laundry!) we couldn't go back to sleep before our early wake up.  So we started the trip on 1.5 (me) and 3.5 (Kristoffer) hours of sleep. Not cool!   

But the trip itself was mostly fine. It was Aya's first time flying since she stopped nursing. The flight to Johannesburg was 3.5 hours and she never slept until the last 27 minutes.  She was overtired. Grace and Noah were mostly fine - but we did really miss being on a bigger airplane with personal TV screens!  

Second flight to Cape Town was also fine - I think Grace and Noah might have slept. Can't remember.  Our arrival was met with some rental car trouble - nothing serious, just took an hour and a half to sort out and our kids had sort of lost patience by that point.  So we promised them that we would go to a toy store right away, which we managed to find without too much difficulty (considering the rental car company did not have a working GPS and our phones were useless until we could get a local sim card) at an ENORMOUS mall.  We ate really bad mall food - huge bummer since Cape Town is a total culinary hub - but they each got to pick out a new Lego box and we bought staple supplies for our apartment and diapers for the week. 

On our drive to the apartment, Aya started screaming again.  Sure enough, she started vomiting all over herself in the car!  ACK!  That was not lovely.  When we managed to get to our flat, showers and baths were the first priority.  The kids building their new Lego sets were a second priority.  We were all asleep early. Aya's bug seemed to pass.


Day 2:  super windy so our morning trip up Table Mountain was delayed.  We found the closest playground - big! creative! awesome! - and played for a long time.  Then we found a divine coffee shop that our friends recommended (Cafe Neo at Mouille Point) and took some lovely drinks to another awesome playground.  It was a really fun morning! 






The wind died down enough for the cable car to be going up the mountain.  So away we went!  We let Grace and Noah take most of the pictures on this vacation, which is why we didn't really notice that our lens was really dirty.  We did not get AMAZING pictures (maybe just a few really good ones) but hopefully you get the idea.

Waiting to go up the mountain!
 The cable car coming to get us...
(note: if you go, buy your tickets ahead of time online! It saved us at least 45 minutes of waiting in line!)


 Noah's view from inside the cable car...
 Table Mountain Lizard
 A view from the top!
(note: Aya fell asleep in the cable car on the way up so it was both hot but also there was a wind chill, and I was carrying her in an Ergo.)










Because we had a VERY HARD TO GET lunch reservation, our stay at the top of Table Mountain was shorter than we would have liked. If we were to do it again, we would eat lunch at the cafe that's up there at the top.  But it was breathtaking - I mean, just incredibly beautiful.

But we DID have these VERY HARD TO GET lunch reservations at The Potluck Club, which is an incredibly trendy restaurant that serves amazing tapas style food. We wanted to go just the two of us, but when I wrote to make a reservation one week before our trip I was told that all dinner reservations were fully booked UNTIL THE END OF JANUARY.  But they could squeeze us in for lunch on this one day of our trip.  Well that just made me want to go even more!  So after our morning at the playground, and our trip up Table Mountain, we showed up 15 minutes late for our super fancy lunch looking like something the cat dragged in.  With three tired, hungry children.  Super classy. 

Aya was a great sport and tried some of the fancy food.  Grace and Noah were less adventurous and mostly ate bread.  But we were determined to love that glass of wine, dammit, and that amazing food!  It cost a fraction of a high-end meal here in Dar and was better than almost any food we've ever eaten here as well.  Minus the moment when Kristoffer was served a "fish slider" in stead of a "tofu slider", it was perfect.




To end this big day, Kristoffer and I hired a babysitter to stay with the minions at the apartment while we went to see a musical theater production.  Obviously I bought these tickets online without knowing the venue or anything...it turned out to be at quite a fancy hotel, but in an old, small function room.  There was a very small stage for a cast of 7 actors and 4 band members on the side.  The audience had maybe 50 chairs in it and about 35 of them were filled.  We sat front and center.  It was a musical based on the Alexander McCall Smith series "The No 1 Ladies Detective Agency", set in a Botswana.  I have read the light, sweet, amusing series over the years and thought it would be fun to see.  We ended up being thrilled to support local artists and were really impressed with their acting, incredible voices, and creative take on the first book of the series.  It was so fun!  And the kids did great with the babysitter.  

After our first full day in Cape Town, we were exhausted, but at least nobody was throwing up (...) and we had big plans for the days to come.

Stay tuned ;)
LMW

Wednesday, October 21, 2015

October 21, 2015 - Happy (early) Halloween!

Life is good and busy in Dar these days.  The Tanzanian national election is on Sunday – there is a very high energy all around us!  We are getting out of dodge tomorrow morning for our family vacation to Cape Town.  To say we are a little bit excited would be the understatement of the year.

Grace had off of school last week and the first part of this week.  She was back just for today and now Noah's school is closing for their October break starting tomorrow.  Today he had a very big Halloween party at his school - it was CRAZY hot but super fun.  I was dressed as the Tooth Fairy (thrilled that I can still fit into my wedding rehearsal dinner dress after 8 years and 3 kids) and he was a pirate...we were a cute couple :) There was a parade and songs and jokes, and then 6 different stations of Halloween-themed games.  It was a great way to kick off our vacation.  











I would like to promise that I will blog a lot from South Africa - but clearly you would have no reason to believe me.  I will certainly try, or at least do a great recap when we are back.  We have many things planned...great food, shopping, wine, and fun!  Can't wait to share it all with you!  And I should have some Tanzanian election news to report as well.  We are hoping and praying for safe and free and fair polls, and that the honest results are announced with minimal civil unrest.  Time will tell.

Now I have to pack!
 LMW

October 21, 2015 - One-and-a-Half!

Sweet Aya Karen is 18 months old today.  One-and-a-half!  How on Earth did that happen?

She is such a great baby…really a little girl these days.  Just to get it out of the way, her least awesome quality is still her sleeping.  We had a few great weeks but for the last 10 days she’s been pretty terrible again.  This morning she started her day at 4 am, calling  “Peekaboo, Mama!” from her crib.  So there’s that.

But in all other ways, she is gold!  She talks a lot – telling her siblings, “No, no!” when she doesn’t approve.  Or confessing to me, “No, no!”  when she has done something wrong (and then we have to go hunt for the scene of the crime).  My favorite thing that she says currently is “All more!” when she is finished with something, instead of “No more” or “All done”.  “All more!” is crazy cute.  Grace and Noah can spend hours just asking her to say stuff – all of which she tries, and most of you can tell what she is trying to say.  Grace is thrilled that she says something that sounds an awful lot like “Gracie” and Noah is content with “Oah” for now.  She can also say “Oligah” (for Oliver) and something that sounds like “Chisafer” for our cook Christopher.

She genuinely thinks that she is much older – easily 3 or 4, and keeps up with the big kids as such.  They can get really upset when she won’t leave them alone, but as the youngest of four children myself, I completely identify with her and help her hang with the big kids as much as possible.  Aya likes to sit at the table to do “homework” with the big kids and has committed a few offenses coloring on the walls.  She also likes to build Lego (thank God!) and to hunt for our tortoise (currently on hold since she had a very close encounter with a snake earlier this week).

Aya is a complete “Fars pige” these days (that’s a Daddy’s Girl!)…you should see her glow when he comes from work.  You can hear from anywhere in the house following him around or hunting for him…”Hi, Far!  Hi, Far!”

Aya is game for a dance party at any time of day – most recently at 5:45 this morning.  Aya loves her baby dolls and playing with them all the time.  She loves to read books with anyone who will read with her, and it’s fun that Grace can read many books to her now.  Aya also loves the water – if we would plop her in and let her lose she would be thrilled (um…she doesn’t know she can’t swim!).  I am surprised every day at how much she understands and can do…and she often elicits a lovely trip down memory lane to the days when Grace and Noah were just as innocent and precious.  She can throw a great temper tantrum and sometimes it is hard to figure out exactly how she believes she was wronged – but even those are adorable (it’s mean to laugh at her sorrow, but she is so funny!).

She’s our best eater at this age!  Aya’s hair seems to be a little bit ginger or red – it will be interesting to see if that stays or goes!  I have no idea what she weighs or how tall she is – I guess she’ll have a check up in a couple of weeks.  She has an amazing laugh, an amazing smile (despite some of her teeth coming in a little funky), and is one of the best baby-huggers I’ve ever encountered. 

 Kristoffer and I have been saying lately how she is really just at THE cutest age and we enjoy her so much (but good Lord, please sleep until 5 at least!).  Take a look for yourself…








Our Sweet Aya

Happy Half Birthday, Sweet Girl!
LMW

Monday, September 21, 2015

September 21, 2015 - Look at Leo

A few weeks ago - maybe even a month ago now - we adopted a young African Leopard Tortoise.  This species typically lives 80-100 years and he is roughly 2 years old.  I wanted to name him "Speedy" because sometimes he is really fast!  But Grace and Noah took their father's advice and went for a Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle name (even though I suppose he is a tortoise toddler)...calling him "Leo" as a nickname for Leonardo.  

Leo is a very good "camouflager", as our kids say.  He can dig down to sit almost level with the earth, and he covers himself with leaves, dead flowers, etc.  It is a new family past time to see who can find Leo first, wherever he is hiding in our garden.  Sometimes he is VERY hard to find! Even though he is small, he can climb a bit so sometiems surprises us where he ends up.  As far as pets go he's pretty low maintenance since he mostly just eats what's in our garden.  We put water out for him (see below) but sometimes he'll go days without having any.  I think dehydration is common to the species.  We don't have to do anything else, really - he definitely does not want to "play."

But he's a nice little guy to have around; Aya particular loves him and is working on saying both "tortoise" and "Leo".  I'm sure whenever it is that we leave Dar we'll easily be able to find a good home for him.  Who doesn't want a TMNT?!
  

One of these rocks is not like the other.
See how speedy he can be!

LMW



Thursday, September 3, 2015

September 3, 2015 - The Thoughtful Thief

This is a true story.

On Tuesday morning, I was very stressed.  Oliver was late to work - usually I leave Aya with her when I take Noah to school and sometimes run a few errands (or go straight to work if I am substituting that day).  So normally I don't bring Aya with me to Noah's school but this morning I had her.  We were late.  There were no parking spots right in front of the school so I parked slightly down the road in an empty parking lot of one of the most popular restaurants in our neck of the woods. There is no security in this location.  I was flustered because the bell was about to ring. Aya was crying.  And I forgot that I had brought my handbag.  Normally I just take my phone and some cash or my bank card with me - I don't normally have a bag with me at that time of the morning.  But because it was THAT kind of morning I had brought a bag.  And when I was taking Noah and screaming-Aya into school I left my bag in the car.

Someone was obviously watching us go into the school.  When I came out about 6 minutes later, my window was smashed into a million pieces and my bag was, OF COURSE, gone.  There is a reason that I don't normally bring a bag or normally don't forget that I have a bag with me.  Because in Dar, this will definitely happen to you.  And it did.  I started to shake a little bit, mostly in anger at myself. 

There was a van parked sort of behind me with one couple talking to another parent of the school.  I asked if they saw anything and showed them my window - they felt really bad...said they had been there for 4 minutes and hadn't seen anything.  So it happened THAT quickly.  One of the parents went to get an askari (security guard), and I borrowed the woman's phone to call Kristoffer (who finally picked up the random number that kept calling). I reported what happened to the Head Mistress of Noah's school before I left (I have since found out that that road is known for bag snatchings - usually right off of people's shoulders when they are walking down the road.), and then I drove home with a now-sleeping Aya, a car full of glass and no passenger side window.  And no house key. And no wallet.  And no prescription sunglasses.  And no iPhone.

I went about the business of writing down what happened, cancelling my US credit card, emailing some people to tell them I no longer had my phone.  When Kristoffer got home very quickly he took me to get a new sim card with my old phone number to put in one of our back-up "not smart" phones. He is very calm and amazing and supportive in situations like these, so I was very grateful for him.

As we were waiting in line at the cell phone company, Kristoffer got a phone call from Noah's school saying that MY BAG HAD BEEN RETURNED.  Let that sink in for a minute. 

MY BAG HAD BEEN RETURNED.  Someone coming into the school found it about 90 minutes after it was taken, laying in front of the school's gate.  

The kindest criminal in Dar GAVE ME MY BAG BACK!  He actually took the risk of returning to the scene of the crime!  What a guy!

And what was in it?  My prescription sunglasses?  Yes!  My house key?  Yes!  All cards and papers from inside my wallet (license, credit card, medic alert ID, and some sentimental papers, etc.)?  Yes!  

What did our thoughtful thief keep?  My nice Fossil wallet.  The equivalent of $100 cash.  And my iPhone.  That's it.   Poor guy was probably disappointed that it was only an old iPhone 4.

The worst part of all this was knowing that I was watched and targeted.  Preyed upon with my kids. And that now I don't feel safe taking Noah to school in the morning.  

But there are many silver linings.  First, I got most of my stuff back! Still can't believe that my DKNY prescription shades are still mine!  Also, Noah and Grace don't know what happened.  Once the glass was all cleaned up, they somehow did not notice that the car was missing a window (which our mechanic replaced within 30 hours).  And I told them that Aya broke my phone which is why I am now using a very old, not-fun phone.  They totally believed that and it was really a must-lie situation.  Just like when Grace's bike was stolen from our compound in broad daylight earlier this year, we just don't want our kids to feel unsafe or scared (even if sometimes we feel that way).  And the biggest silver lining: nobody was hurt.  I wasn't held up or anything like that.  Nobody grabbed my bag from my shoulder while I was holding Aya.  And it was just STUFF that got taken.  That is a relief.

The rest of the week has had some other highs and lows as well.  We got our first family pet - Leonardo (Leo for short) the tortoise.  We adopted him from a family whose dog went crazy and starting killing all of their tortoises.  I never thought I'd say this about a tortoise, but he is super cute!  And the kids love him!  We also booked our first family vacation to Cape Town, South Africa at the end of October.  So that will be AWESOME!  It's been on our bucket list for a long time.   A few other tough moments were in there - Aya not sleeping, Grace has a stomach bug, Noah's first football (soccer) practice didn't go very well, and I had a horrible experience at the local Police Station trying to report Tuesday's incident.  Ugh.  But it's Thursday now - so just looking forward to the weekend and starting over next week. 

Thanks and No Thanks to Dar's Thoughtful Thief.  What a week!
LMW