April 18, 2010 - Loves

What's new with Grace these days? Well...not too much!

She loves fruit (if only we could pack pears with calories!)!

She loves Tsavo!

She loves trying to do whatever Mae does!

She loves shoes!

~pictured in her new official walking shoes, now that she is doing a lot more walking by herself (today she initiated walking for the first time, instead of us trying to get her to do it)~

LMW

April 15, 2010 - Just the Other Day...

After arriving in Kenya, we quickly noticed the different ways that Kenyans speak English. They have some language patterns and sayings that are really foreign to me, even though they are speaking my native language (as their 2nd or 3rd language, usually). We often hear old-fashioned British vocabulary and sayings that, from what we can tell, British people don't actually still say, along with what seem like "strange" uses of specific phrases and translations from Kiswahili that can make a native-English speaker feel more than a bit confused. I'm not writing this as a criticism, just a humorous observation...after all, when I try to speak Kiswahili, or better yet Danish, I am used to laughter or confusion on the other end.

Kristoffer and I often talk about this "Kenyan English", as we call it, particularly because we often (I shudder, but it is true) catch ourselves saying some really bizarre things! Here are just a few classic examples:

• "Pick it (or you/him/her/me)" instead of "pick it up": "Charles will pick you at the main gate." or "Please pick the package and deliver it to..."

• Someone says hello to you and you respond, "Fine". Why? Because in Kiswahili you will say "Jambo, habari" which pretty much means "Hello, How are you?" and someone responds, "Mzuri", which basically means "fine". Kenyans translate this to English so if someone says "Hello", the "how are you" is assumed and they will respond "fine" even when you didn't actually ask. It took me at least 18 months to not be annoyed by this and I have since done it myself at least three times.

• The word "alight", which means to come down/settle/get off of/dismount. I have never heard an American use this word and have never actually heard a British person use it, but it must have been used a lot by British here during colonialism. Charles will often say to me when arriving somewhere, "Will you alight here or should I drop you somewhere else?"

• "Just the other day..." When a Kenyan says this phrase it could mean yesterday, last week, last month, 10 years ago, or before independence. Literally. Kristoffer had a conversation with a colleague during which he was talking about the early 80s when President Moi was in power and he actually said, "Just the other day, the president blah blah blah..." And, by the way, they don't say this in a nostalgic manner, such as "It seems like just the other day that Grace was a tiny baby." Once, Charles told me, "Just the other day we had a dog but it died and we didn't get a new one." And then I found out that was a few years ago!

• "Isn't it." Said more as a statement than a question. After everything. It seems to be used to verify that something is true or when you want someone to acknowledge/agree, but it sounds horrible to a native English speaker's ears.

This meeting will be called to order. Isn't it.

I'm going to play squash this evening. Isn't it.

Grace doesn't like to sleep in the morning. Isn't it.

We should think about where we want to go for lunch. Isn't it.

I hate when I catch myself speaking Kenyan English. Isn't it.

The thing I wonder about most is will these "Kenyan English"-isms stay with us when we don't live here anymore?! Maybe "just the other day" will sneak up on me every now or I will occasionally drop an "Isn't it". In the same way I sometimes say "papah" instead of "paper" and am reminded of growing up outside of Boston and with my mother's strong accent, it will be proof to the world and to myself that indeed I have lived here and I have known this place.

LMW

April 14, 2010 - Staff Stories

Charles and Jonipher are having a tough week.

Late Sunday night, or early Monday morning rather, Charles heard noises outside of the room he lives in here in Nairobi. There were people outside and they called to him, "Charles, do not come out. Do not alert anyone that we are here. If you do, we will shoot you." They then proceeded to break into and rob his next door neighbor's room (the neighbor was away). He was worried and it sounds like a bit scared, although he would never use the words to us. He thinks he might know the young boys who did it; they obviously knew him. This is a reality of our life in Nairobi that we are always aware of but actually try to not talk about that much: a lot of crime. If Kristoffer had been leaving our house a little bit earlier that morning, Charles might have been outside using the bathroom and they would have been able to get into his room and rob him, or worse (since he would have seen them). So we are grateful that the situation wasn't worse and hope he doesn't have to deal with any similar incidents in the future.

Jonipher's trouble, on the other hand, is even worse because we learned from her this week that she has really high blood pressure. As in, 180/120 the last time it was taken. Kristoffer drove her close to her house on his way to a squash match on Monday night and this came up in conversation. When he came later he said to me, "I think Jonipher might die soon." WHAT?!?! Well, not only is her blood pressure dangerously high, but she is having severe headaches, tingling and numbness on one side of her body, and sometimes she has moments where she doesn't know where she is. We basically think she is a walking-stroke-about-to-happen and we are worried about her. So this morning I've sent her to a clinic to see a doctor and tell him these specific symptoms to find out what medicine she can take. We will have to pay for the medicine because she is supporting a very large family and can't afford it. She has 5 children: of the 4 adults, 3 are currently unemployed and she has one school-aged son with school fees. There are also several grandchildren and she is supporting all of them. So buying herself medication or spending money on healthy foods like fruit is too expensive for her. We'll see what the doctor at this clinic says today and then make a plan from there. Can you even imagine have a very serious blood pressure problem and doing absolutely nothing about it?!

I know that I complain about Kenya and Kenyans a lot (or at least I feel that I do) but really it is stories like these that do give me a shadow of understanding why Kenyans are the way they are. They live a pretty difficult life.

LMW

p.s. I'm adding to this blog to say that Jonipher has now come home and her blood pressure was actually 233/125. The doctor gave her some kind of pill to dissolve in her mouth over the course of an hour along with 2 other kinds of medication for hypertension and wants to see her again on Friday. Yikes!

April 10, 2010 - Blast from the Past

Remember these drums from a very long time ago? Well we are finally putting them to good use and started taking drum lessons this week! I hired a guy who used to teach after-school drum lessons at the international school and he came to our house yesterday for our first lesson. Since it is not very likely that I will get to climb Mt. Kilimanjaro this year (time, money, Grace, etc.) I was determined to do at least one of the two things that I really wanted to do when we moved here. Kristoffer is better at impromptu solos and I am better at a keeping a steady beat, and we both had a lot of fun! Our teacher, Obuya, is maybe the coolest Kenyan I've ever met. Picture a darker-skinned, skinnier Bob Marley with a Kenyan-but-nearly-Ugandan accent (he is Nairobi born but his family comes from Western Kenya). Now we just need to find a baby drum so Grace can practice too...she did great for the first 20 minutes or so but then she wanted to play our drums and got frustrated that we weren't that into her. We intentionally planned the lessons for when Jonipher is here so she can entertain Grace. Can't wait for our next lesson! Keep your calendars out for our international concert schedule...

LMW

April 9, 2010 - Trip Down Memory Lane

Almost two months after we moved to Nairobi I blogged about meeting a woman who turned out to be my first friend here. She and her husband got married one week after we did and they arrived in Kenya a few months before us. Well they had a baby in December and we had a play date at our house yesterday. We also saw them a few weeks ago at their house and it has been really nice to reconnect with our kids after a long time of not seeing each other (she was working in Europe during her pregnancy and had her baby in the US).

Little Miss Grace and Master Santiago got along very well, and their naps overlapped so that my friend and I could have a nice visit. Grace has gotten very good at sharing recently and was happy to bring him her toys.

I have to say that it was really nice to have a small baby in the house again. We brought out all of Grace's old gear: her boppy (nursing pillow), her swing, her bouncy seat, her rattles...the works! It was a real trip down memory lane for Grace and she loved examining all her old stuff. The fun really started last night before bed when she started filling up the bouncy seat with all her current and past toys. Lately she has taken to "sorting" things: she puts things in a pile and then when she is done she individually moves each item to a new pile, and usually does it one more time after that. We are really enjoying all of the cute play we are seeing at this age.

LMW

April 5, 2010 - EWE (Easter Weekend Events)

We decided not to go away for our long weekend and took the opportunity to do a couple of things that we had never done in Nairobi before; we also spent three days of our weekend with different Nairobi friends. It was a really great way to spend a holiday weekend and today we are enjoying doing a whole lot of nothing at home.

On Friday we went to the Windsor Golf Hotel & Country Club with Grace's friend Hayley and her family (her mom is my friend Miriam with big sister Charlotte and dad Murray). The weather wasn't so good in the morning but we were there until the afternoon and enjoyed swimming in a VERY warm pool. The food was great and Kristoffer found a new squash partner in Murray. It was very close to our house and was a really nice place to spend the day.

Saturday was a slightly bigger trip. We drove to Naivasha (a little over an hour north of Nairobi - you'll notice if you've read our blog for awhile that we go to Naivasha a lot) with our neighbors to visit the Crescent Island Wildlife Sanctuary in Lake Naivasha. Crescent Island is actually a peninsula but depending on the water level can look like an island. We drove to the Lake Naivasha Country Club from where we took a 5 minute boat ride out to the sanctuary. With a guide, we then spent 2 hours on a walking safari! There are no predators or dangerous animals (big cats, elephants, rhinos, buffalo, etc.), except for some pythons which don't come out during the day, and so with our guide we were very comfortable walking around the crescent and enjoying the beautiful scenery and wildlife.

We saw many, many, many impala (and gazelles too but they are not pictured here)...

and some fighting waterbuck (a large type of antelope)...

but really the bulk of our safari was all about the giraffes. We have fed giraffes at the Giraffe Center a few times before which is the closest you can get to giraffes and is an incredible experience, although those particular giraffes are almost domesticated. Out in the wild we have seen hundreds of giraffes on safari before which have also been great experiences. But nothing can quite compare to tracking giraffes on foot and actually walking around with them.

At first we watched them from a good distance...

and then we decided to walk closer...

and closer...

...and we were able to get up really close to a 2-week old giraffe. You'll notice her umbilical cord is still hanging. Good thing for us that giraffes make particularly bad mothers and don't pay too much attention about protecting their young from picture-taking Americans. (I promise we weren't close enough to threaten the giraffe in any way...)

I like that this picture shows the giraffe baby with my baby!

We followed them for close to an hour. Our guide, Moses, knows the giraffes very well because he walks around the island with them every day. At one point I think we were only 50 ft away.

I love this one showing an adult giraffe with four kids. They are incredibly beautiful animals up close.

It became really fun to try to take as many poses as possible with giraffes close in the background. Here, Grace was happy to be let out of her carrier and walk a little. We used to think she was really small...but compared to even the baby giraffe she seemed tiny!

The Hartwell Family...

Grace and her best buds, Mae and Ben...

Mae (almost 9) loves, loves, loves Grace and Grace loves, loves, loves Mae right back!

Grace had a pretty good time playing with Ben (almost 10) too...

The fun really started when we let Grace play in the grass by herself (don't worry...it was completely safe...). Some day when she is older and doesn't quite know what we mean when we say she was born in Africa, we'll show her these once-in-a-lifetime pictures.

Could this be any sweeter?

Grace even let our guide Moses hold her for some giraffe poses...

As it is the rainy season now there was an afternoon storm coming in and so when the clouds started to get dark we started to head away from the giraffes to catch our boat back to the country club. In the future, when I think back to these years in Nairobi...I will think of this moment as a way to remember my Africa.

Almost back to the boat when we came across some more giraffes!

Apparently they couldn't get enough of us...

Grace enjoyed a little more goofing around with Sam and the kids before we went back for a late afternoon lunch at the country club...

Soon it was Easter Sunday! While I was at church, the Easter Bunny showed up (a little late, but that's Africa for you...) and hid Easter eggs around our living room (it was raining outside). Then Mae and Ben came over to help Grace hunt for eggs. This was a nice tradition to share with them after celebrating a Passover Seder at their house last Monday. Grace liked the Easter goodies that Nene & Pops and Aunt Meghan and her gang sent from the US. We wanted to dye Easter eggs but there are no white eggs in Kenya and it seemed weird to try and dye brown eggs - bummer! I think Grace's favorite part of the morning was throwing all the plastic eggs into the fire place once they were all emptied.

Later in the afternoon we went to Easter dinner with a different group of friends. Grace was a very good girl and willingly shared her toys with her friend Apollo (10 months) for the first time. This was especially impressive given that we are trying to wean Grace and she has been a little bit fussy and clingy (more on that later...). Kristoffer and I felt very proud of her on Easter.

Happy belated Easter to you...how many giraffes did you see?!

LMW

April 1, 2010 - Rainy Day

It was a very cool and rainy morning in Nairobi and only now is the sun starting to break through at 1 pm (which is rare). Our car is in the shop today so Grace and I are stuck at home and we had no electricity for the entire morning. So...cool, raining, no car, no power...what to do?

First, we invited Mae and Ben to come over and build a fort for Grace to play in. That went well, as you can see.

Then Grace decided to play in the laundry. She has been doing this for weeks now and just loves to take out and unfold fresh clothes; she also loves to hide things in the laundry like my cell phone. Last week she decided she liked to put my underwear on her head while playing with the laundry*. Today for the first time she went for 3 pairs of underwear at once and began crawling around with them on her head, taking them off and then putting them back on in a different order. I apologize if it is inappropriate for me to post these pictures...but really I find them too funny to keep to myself.

The future of our rainy day hopefully involves taking a nap (with Grace a nap is never guaranteed) and then greeting Far when he gets home this evening to begin our four-day Easter weekend!

LMW

* please note that neither Kristoffer nor I walk around with underwear on either of our heads, so we really have no idea where this game came from :)

March 29, 2010 - Weighing In

Grace went to the doctor on Friday for a weight check-up and to get the results of her blood test. The really good news is that Grace gained 300 grams since her birthday (that is 2/3 of a lb) and has finally reached 8 kg (17.6 lbs). She's been stuck between 7 and 8 kg for 7 months so this is a big deal! She is also not off the charts anymore and is sitting somewhere around 3rd percentile for weight.

Her celiac test results, however, did not give us any news. It turns out that Grace has a deficiency for one of her immune system's antibodies and because of that deficiency the test was invalid. But now that we know she has this deficiency they could do another test which takes into account her missing antibodies and will give us the true answer. I have been told that people with celiac disease are more likely to be missing these antibodies AND Grace did gain more weight on her gluten-free diet...but neither can tell us for sure if she is gluten-intolerant or not. So we're keeping her on the diet (if it ain't broke, don't fix it!) and waiting a few more weeks to find out. We are also going to meet with a dietician here to try and improve her diet and eating habits. Finally, we have to find a way to wean Grace from nursing because as of right now she wants to do nothing else and won't drink anything else. This could be contributing to her not eating enough solid food. It's going to be a busy month for us, but we are encouraged to be on the right path!

Keep the weight-gain thoughts coming our way, and if you have advice to wean a particularly stubborn and addicted nursing 13-month old, please pass it on!

LMW

March 28, 2010 - Shoes

Grace has enjoyed saying the word "shoes" for awhile now, but in the last week or so she has actually become very interested in shoes beyond just saying the word. She likes to crawl into my closet and take out all my shoes (as seen below) and has even started matching them up and bringing them to my feet in pairs. My flip-flops present the biggest challenge because I have so many pairs...but now she can match them correctly!

In the past week any time she saw a person with shoes on, she was fascinated; she would sit right in front of their feet, point to them and repeat, "shoes. shoes. shoes". Sometimes Grace wears a soft type of baby shoe but usually she is in socks or barefoot. This morning I decided to bring out all the shoes we have for her and her pink crocs from her Danish cousins are by far her favorite (also because every child in Nairobi wears crocs). She walked in them today for the first time because they are only slightly too big now and she LOVED wearing them. She couldn't stop looking down at her own feet, pointing to them and repeating, "shoes. shoes. shoes."

If this trend in any indication of our future, we may have a shoe fetish on our hands!

LMW

March 25, 2010 - Boston on the Brain

With Red Sox hat and Harvard onesie in tow, Grace will be heading back to Boston for her third visit in May. I'm going with her for two weeks while Kristoffer is studying French IN France (it's a tough life...) and then he will join us for a third week. Since we are leaving after the first week of May and it is almost April, I figure it is not too early to start making our shopping list and planning dates to see our friends and family. It will have been 7 months since I was last home which about as long as I can go without going a little mad. We are going to take Grace to New York City for the first time and are most excited because we will see ALL six of Grace's American aunts and uncles (my siblings and their spouses) and her six American cousins as well. We are very eager to meet Baby Nora who will be six months old on the day we arrive. It will surely be a very memorable Memorial Day for us!

LMW

March 24, 2010 - Snack Time

One of my very favorite parts of our life here is living across the street from an American family who have become our very good friends. Mae and Ben are in 3rd and 5th grades, their parents both work here in Nairobi, and their golden retriever was born when I got pregnant so he and Grace literally go "way back". This family is a very big part of our daily life. The kids are the same ages as some of our nieces and nephews in the US and Denmark so for us it is GREAT to have regular access to them, and they really love to play with Grace. The parents are interesting, wonderful friends and we love the concept of being neighbors who help each other in practice (jumping the car battery, borrowing eggs, picking up pizza on Sunday night, trading DVDs, etc.).

After Grace has breakfast every morning during the week we walk across the street to say good morning to Tsavo (the dog) and to send the people off to school and work at 8:15. It is a ritual that Grace loves. She will crawl to the door and point if I am taking too long to get to it. When the kids get home from school and she hears them start to play basketball, we're over there again. Yesterday Grace was invited to have after school snack with Mae and Ben. We all know how much she loves to eat carrots hummus, but to eat carrots and hummus with her best friends while sitting outside on a gorgeous day? Life doesn't get much better.

LMW

March 16, 2010 - Malu Lodge

This past weekend we took a little holiday with Kirsten and Hans to a place called Malu Lodge in Naivasha, which was a 2-hour drive north of Nairobi. It was the perfect distance to get out of the city while not running into trouble with Grace in the car for too long. Malu is essentially a big farm inside a big forest. We rented a two-bedroom cottage for two nights, which was especially cozy by the fire in the evening, and ate at their secretly wonderful Italian kitchen. There were farm animals galore for Grace's entertainment (horses, cows, donkeys, rabbits, turkeys, ducks, geese, chickens, dogs, cats) and wild animals that we didn't see too much of (buffalo, leopards, baboons, and small antelope called dik dik).

We were able to walk in the forest and bathe in a very special hot spring pool in the middle of it! We carried Grace around on our backs and enjoyed LOTS of peace and quiet. Some of us (okay, not me and Grace) went for a bike ride! It was a really special place that we would recommend to residents and travelers alike.

When we came back to Nairobi we had one more day with Kirsten and Hans. They took us out to a nice dinner on Saturday, we took them to a big pot luck lunch at the home of one of our friends on Sunday, and Kristoffer played his final two games of tennis with them. It was a hard goodbye on Monday morning...and Grace was extra snuggly with her Farmor so it almost seemed as if she knew that they were leaving. We spent yesterday being really sad without them, but we are so grateful for the 3 weeks they were here and for all the fun-joy-love-walking practice-Danish treats they brought with them.

LMW

March 9, 2010 - Word Nerd

I am not a linguist and have never studied in what ways babies acquire language, but I have an observation strictly as a mom. Grace seems to be learning to say words in chunks: she picks up a few words that have some similarities.

• First there were words that start with "b": bye, ball, bubble, bog (book in Danish), bil (car in Danish...she has not mastered this one but is working on it)

• Then came words that end in the sound of "s": cheese, Jesus, shoes, keys, luz (light in Danish)

• Lately there are words with the short sound "a" in them: quack (says the duck), tractor/traktor, cracker

• She also has some words that don't correlate: mama (her first), hi, doggy, no, mmmmm (not really a word, I know, but she says that when she wants to eat!)...

• ...and 4 signs that are accompanied by half-word sounds: water, milk, tak for mad (thank you for the food in Danish for when she is finished eating), and again/igen.

This is a really exciting time in her development because we just love hearing what comes out of her mouth and what language it is in! A funny story about the word "no": our housekeeper Jonipher keeps telling Grace to "stand up" by herself. If we're in the kitchen and Grace is in the middle of the floor she'll say, "Gracie, stand up! Stand up!...Stand up!" and Grace will look at her say, "no!" and then crawl away. It totally cracks us up. She is still able to take just a few steps from one person to the next but is not standing up on her own or balancing well enough to really, really walk. In good time I'm sure!

LMW

March 5, 2010 - Going Gluten Free

Instead of waiting 2 more weeks to find out if Grace is gluten-intolerant (and, therefore, 2 more weeks of her not gaining weight if that is true), we decided to start her on a gluten-free diet as of Wednesday.

So far it hasn't been as hard for her to be gluten-free in Nairobi as I feared. Some of the baby food she has eaten has pasta in it so we scratched that. She eats dairy already (yogurt and cheese) so no change there. I think the hardest part is that she normally eats a lot of whole-wheat bread with hummus and whole-wheat pasta. I did find some gluten-free bread but it tasted pretty terrible and she spit it out on the 2nd bite. She is getting rice and quinoa cakes and loves brown rice crackers (that she has already been eating for a few weeks). It was easy to find gluten-free pastas and so far she likes them. As usual, she continues to eat brown rice if it is wrapped in cheese (we call that "baby sushi" in our house)! Her baby cereal was already gluten-free and of course we're trying to beef up the fruit and veggies. Luckily she likes tofu which is safe, and she can still have her hummus. We are a work in progress, but we are determined to help this little girl bulk up!

We have been told by a few different sources that the blood test for celiac often results in a false-negative, which means it might tell us that she is not gluten-intolerant when in fact she really is. Our game plan is to take her to the doctor after being gluten-free for one month - regardless of the test's results - to see if she has gained weight. If it worked, we'll keep it up! If not, then with the doctor's help we'll move on to the next potential cause (of which I have no idea at the moment). Grace is still nursing (no cow's milk yet, at the doctor's suggestion) but we are trying to add formula to her food to give some supplemental nutrition and see if that helps with the weight gain. She really only had 2 bottles in her life (given by my mom in October when I was with my friends for a day!) and is understandably refusing them now. She won't drink the formula beyond a few sips from her cup, so mixing it with cereal and yogurt seems to be our best shot now.

If anyone has gluten-free baby-friendly recipes or suggestions...please share them here!

LMW

March 2, 2010 - Baby Steps

At one year and three days old, Grace has taken her first solo steps. Hans was helping her practice walking but she really wanted to come to me, and so with a little assistance at first she then let go and took 3 steps to me by herself! Then she did it again! Then she took 4 steps to Farmor from Hans! Then she took even more! Wow!

Before that, Grace actually had a somewhat traumatic morning. We went to the doctor for her one-year check-up this morning and the news was mixed. Developmentally, she is doing great! He was impressed with her vocabulary (she has about 10 definite words between both languages, and several more almost-definite words) and was pleased with all the things I reported on that she can do (before the steps even!). The bad news, however, is that she has still barely put on any weight. Since she was 6 months old she has only gained 700 grams which is about 1.5 lbs. His concern, he said, is not what she weighs, but rather that for 6 months she was at 50th percentile and since beginning to eat solid foods has gained almost nothing, putting her in the 0 percentile now. So. After receiving two painful vaccinations for MMR and Hep A, she got a blood test (3 shots = sad Grace, sad Mama, sad Farmor). For the fourth time in a row, she is still not anemic and has normal liver function, which are both great pieces of news. The big question is whether she has a gluten intolerance or not, otherwise known as celiac disease. It takes 2-3 weeks for the results of that blood test to come back so now we just sit and wait and keep up our efforts to pack on the pounds!

I did tell the doctor that in the last week she has eaten better/more than ever before which is hopefully a good sign. Her sleeping habits have completely regressed, though, and she is back to waking up 2, 3, or 4 times a night instead of just once. I have no idea if these things are related. I guess with a baby, there is a lot of guesswork in matters like this. We are crossing our fingers and saying a prayer that Grace doesn't have celiac disease, because it seems to be a difficult, time-consuming, and inconvenient (ok, also maybe expensive) condition that doesn't go away with time or age.

Anyway, she recovered quickly from the shots, poking and prodding and went on to take her first steps. She was pretty exhausted when her father came home from work this evening, but did manage to get in 3 or 4 more steps for his viewing pleasure. She REALLY looks like she wants to run and we are so proud!

LMW