Tuesday, April 7, 2009

April 7, 2009 - Opening Day...or not

The newest member of Red Sox nation was highly disappointed that opening day at Fenway Park was rained out yesterday. She was all geared up and ready to go!

GO RED SOX!





LMW

Monday, April 6, 2009

April 6, 2009 - Big Girl!

A few more pictures of Grace...she is really big! We are very eager for her doctor's appointment tomorrow and are taking bets on how much she weighs exactly! When we leave for the Masai Mara on Thursday morning she will be six weeks old!

In fact, she is so big that she is not sleeping in her cradle anymore! We moved her big crib from her nursery into our bedroom so that she has enough room and because when we put her down in her cradle she would sometime wake up from the rocking and then not easily go back to sleep. Now she is in her big crib and sleeps a bit more soundly we think! We also think she has been going through another growth spurt because on Saturday night and Sunday she was cluster feeding every 45 minutes to an hour. Luckily (for me and Kristoffer) she slept very well last night with two stretches of almost three hours.






LMW

Sunday, April 5, 2009

April 5, 2009 - Grace's Mini-Safari

Saturday we took my parents and Grace to Naivasha to the lodge that we had stayed at after during the December 2007 election. We went there just for the day to take a walk on the lake and have a nice lunch. This was sort of a mini-safari and was Grace's first experience seeing (through her closed eye-lids) animals.

This lodge is not on Lake Naivasha, but a smaller lake that probably used to be joined with Lake Naivasha called Lake Oloidon. This lake is just a little bit salty and occasionally has a few flamingos that got lost getting to Lake Nakuru, which is a large salt-water lake just north. Because of the lack of rain here (the long rains are about 3 weeks late now and before that it was a very hot, dry season) the water level is down and therefore the lake is more salty than usual. Almost all of the flamingos from Lake Nakuru - at least 50,000 of them - have thus been staying at Lake Oloidon and it was our great fortune to see them yesterday! We are so glad we didn't decide to take my parents to Nakuru to see the flamingos because they wouldn't have been there!

We also got to see about 50 hippos sun-bathing outside of the water during the day, which is also a rare find. We saw a few giraffes and zebra, some interesting birds, and some different antelope. It was nice to walk along the lake, although it was a bit like walking in an animal-poop minefield! Even though it was hot, there was a lovely breeze and we had a very pleasant guide named Peter.

Here are some pictures from the day (my mom wasn't feeling well so she didn't go on the walk with us):














LMW

Thursday, April 2, 2009

April 2, 2009 - The Big Five

In Kenya, the "big five" is what the group of the following animals is called: elephants, rhinos, leopards, lions and buffalo. In our house, however, the "big five" means that Grace is five weeks old today!

At five weeks, Grace is prematurely aging. She has horrendous acne like a teenager and a hairline that is receding faster than her father's! Okay okay, so baby acne and hair loss are completely normal but it is funny to me how much those two things can change the looks of a baby so much. The good news is that for the last two days Grace's blocked tear duct has been unblocked (knock on wood) so she no longer has yellow crust or goo coming out of her left eye.

This week Grace has had two really tough days (today included) and two really great days. Monday was her first really bad day - she was just unhappy and inconsolable and just wanted to be held and rocked the entire day (possibly the result of something I ate?). Today began in a similar fashion, and she has gone back and forth between the moods "I will sleep as long as you hold me, Mom" and "It's my party and I'll cry if I want to". [Note: Grace is sleeping in my left arm and I am typing with my right hand alone. Not the fastest way to blog, but it gets the job done.] She is almost getting to be too big for her cradle in our room, which breaks my heart a little! She is only five weeks old! I did try putting her in her big crib today, but that only lasted a little while because of her aforementioned moods. I will certainly be eager to get her updated length and weight stats from the doctor next week.

On Tuesday Grace had a great day! That day she was making the cutest baby noises (she is increasingly not that quiet!) and we think actually smiled in response to our voices and not just gas (a few times yesterday too). I wouldn't go so far as to say that she has mastered a social smile, but I do think she is starting to figure it out. She hasn't rolled over since last week (she has rolled four times in total) and Kristoffer has yet to see her do it so maybe he is starting to think that my parents and I made it all up! In terms of sleeping, I would say that she still sleeps more during the day but she will usually give us one three hour stretch every night along with a couple two hour stretches. She continues to love being in motion and music definitely soothes her. We are also having more success with a pacifier when she is a bit ornery but does not need to eat; she is still eating on demand which can be anywhere from every hour to every two or three (never longer than that!).

In Kenya the rainy season has sort of started - we had two nights of torrential rain this week but yesterday was brutally hot (or at least it felt that way to me and Grace when we went out to meet Kristoffer for lunch). More rain should be coming and the country desperately needs it. In one week we are taking Grace on her first plane ride to the Masai Mara for a two-day safari with my parents. It should be an interesting 45-minute test-drive to see how she does before we take her on really long flights to Denmark and the US in June. My parents come back from Mombasa late this afternoon and I am eager to hear about their beach trip. I didn't receive any emergency phone calls from them so I assume they got along just fine!

Here are some pictures of Grace from this past Sunday after going to church and out to brunch for the first time (she hasn't yet been out to dinner at a restaurant, but she has "done lunch" a number of times so far).




And here are a few pictures of Grace today - reminder that she is not in the best mood, although still cute as a button! And, yes, I did just realize that she is wearing the same onesie both days - whoops (what can I say, both days were a little cool and I went with the long sleeves)! Thanks to Mark, Kate and Brady Andersen for the cute outfit!


LMW

Tuesday, March 31, 2009

March 31, 2009 - Motherhood

I have written a lot about Grace in the last almost-five weeks, but I haven't written too much about being a mom. So here goes! I know that it is totally a cliche, but I really feel like I was born to be Grace's mother. It blows my mind everyday that Kristoffer and I were able to create something so perfect. She relies on me to love, nurture and feed her, and I am ever so happy to comply. She is changing everyday and I love experiencing those changes with her. I feel so powerful that I was able to bring something so beautiful into this world and I take the responsibility of helping her become a smart, funny, interesting, caring, loving and kind human being very seriously. It is an honor to be Grace's mother - as cheesy as that sounds. My love for her is infinite and it is the most powerful emotion I have ever felt.

As wonderful as motherhood is, it isn't without challenges. Mostly, I am really tired and feel like I have sort of a permanent "jet lag" - where I can function but feel like I am on a different clock than the rest of the world. Exclusive breastfeeding is a full time job and I feel like my entire day is feeding, changing, and comforting Grace. I realize, however, that I have it "easy" compared to most other new moms. I have a full-time housekeeper so that I never have to do laundry, clean the house, or prepare a meal! I literally can devote my whole day to Grace with occasional moments to blog, pay bills, shower before Kristoffer gets home (on a good day!) or sleep when she is sleeping. I have also had my parents with us since the morning after we came home from the hospital and they have been enormously helpful with Grace. I don't take it for granted that our expat-lifestyle in Kenya makes the transition to motherhood much easier than if we were in the US or Denmark and I am very grateful for that!

All the help I have doesn't change the fact that my decision making process has completely changed - Grace is now a major factor in everything we do and also how we do it! I am happy when she is sleeping, but I also look forward to when she wakes up so that I can see what facial expressions she will make (she has so many!) or what her hands will do (they are very active!). The other difference that I strongly feel is that Kristoffer and I are really no longer "just" a couple...we are a family! We have a connection now that I feel is even stronger than our marriage vows alone - we have Grace! I once read in a "new mom" book that the best thing parents can do is to openly show love for each other in front of their children. That is a gift Kristoffer and I are happy to give our daughter.

So far as her mother, I don't think I have done anything to royally screw Grace up. Yes, I did once scratch her with the velcro on her bib and another time I scratched her with my needed-to-be-cut fingernail, and occasionally I wait a few minutes too long to feed her if I have to go to the bathroom or something...but I doubt she will remember such traumas (even though she screamed bloody murder at the time!). I haven't yet embarrassed her in public or left her in a grocery store, but I do often forget to put a bib on her so she is frequently covered in spit up and has several wardrobe changes everyday.

I am guilty of showering her with hundreds of kisses everyday, of sometimes holding her a little too long in the middle of the night before putting her down after she has eaten, of singing "Amazing Grace" to her maybe one too many times a day, of staring at her while she is sleeping for at least one or two hours a day, and of generally "spoiling" her with my arms and attention whenever I have the chance. So far though, the system is working. Grace is healthy, happy (except for yesterday - she had her first really bad day), and growing everyday.

The verdict is that, while I am sure it will get harder and more challenging and more stressful and I will have plenty of days when I just don't know what the heck I am doing or how I will get through it, this motherhood gig is pretty fantastic so far and I wouldn't trade it for anything in the world.

LMW

Sunday, March 29, 2009

March 29, 2009 - Grace Takes Tea

Well, she didn't exactly "take tea" (as they say in Kenya), but she did go on her first outing outside of Nairobi to one of the oldest tea plantations in Kenya. The five of us had a lovely, lovely day - the countryside just north of Nairobi and at 7,200 ft, is lush and green and beautiful, which is in stark contrast to much of the rest of the country right now which is experiencing drought and looks like a desert! The woman who owns/runs the tea farm is third generation doing it, and second generation born in Kenya. We learned a lot about tea! She was fascinating, as were many of the people we met there (people from all over the world!). My mom posted quite a few pictures on her blog so I won't repeat them. Except for...

Grace's outing started out like this:



And then a few times during the day this is what was going on (after she ate!):



Here we tried to take a family portrait but she was more interested in eating so it turned out like this:



Grace is getting bigger and is changing so much everyday. This week my parents will be at the beach until Thursday so we will see how we do during our days without them. Kristoffer insists on going to work - how dare he!

LMW

Thursday, March 26, 2009

March 26, 2009 - One Month Young





Happy One Month Birthday to me!

It doesn't feel like it has already been a month - I still remember those cozy, warm days in utero so well! Mama keeps saying how big I am getting so I suppose I have changed a lot since I was born. I am a really good eater so she must be right that I am gaining length and weight...that is why I keep rolling over! With all of my eating, I need some exercise too! She says that I go to the doctor in another 10 days to check on my progress.

This week we mostly laid low at home but today I did go to my first "wives club" meeting at the UN with Mama. All of the ladies there thought I was really cute and sweet. All week Far has been traveling for work and we have really missed him (especially Mama who has to feed, burp, change, and entertain me during the night all by herself! This is kind of rough for her because I still have my days and nights confused and usually sleep longer stretches during the day instead of at night!). I really like Far's soft voice and how gentle he is when he gives me a bath; he is also good for a foot rub so I am hoping to get one from him tomorrow night as soon as he walks in the door! My face has really filled out this week - I wonder if he will recognize me!

To celebrate being one month old, this morning after I rolled over I decided to lift my head all the way up and move it from left to right while lying on my belly. Phew - it was exhausting! Mama, Nene and Pops spend a lot of time sitting around staring at me and they keep hoping that I will do more amazingly cute things. Every now and then I have to throw them a bone!

GEW

Tuesday, March 24, 2009

March 24, 2009 - Happy Birthday, Syracuse!

Today is Syracuse University's 139th birthday - otherwise known as National Orange Day by students, faculty, and alumni. Given that I "bleed orange" (as we say), it is no wonder that Grace is already attracted to good old SU and has filled out her NCAA Basketball tournament bracket with Syracuse winning it all!

The valedictorian of the graduating class of 2030 wishes Syracuse a great coming year!




(Thank you to the "Fun Factor" - Gina, Marcie, Sarah, Jess and Jess - for Grace's Syracuse sweatshirt...she could only wear it for a few minutes today because it is not quite in season over here but I think by the time it gets cold she will fit into a bit better and will love to wear it all the time!)

LMW & GEW

Monday, March 23, 2009

March 23, 2009 - Let the Good Times Roll

Grace is almost four weeks old and continues to amaze us. We think she has been going through a growth spurt, which we've read is normal at three weeks, because on Saturday night she demanded to eat every hour! Literally! I got no sleep that night (and was a definite zombie on Sunday) and even though Kristoffer tried to calm and soothe her all she wanted was to eat so there was not much he could do to help me out! It might be time for me to start pumping so that he can share in a nightly feeding.

As she is getting bigger and stronger it is getting easier for her to roll over! Now, I'm not saying that it is very easy...it requires a serious investment of time on her part and on the part of her loyal spectators (aka me and my parents) and it makes her tired, but she did roll over again last night around 9:30 pm when she was wide awake and today at about 12:30 pm when she napping. She loves to be on her side and that often lends itself to her flipping. We thought that last week's roll was just a fluke, but it appears that "she is on a roll" as my father said (pun intended).

Kristoffer is actually away for work this week in northwestern Kenya near the border of Sudan. He is on a mission to verify school enrollment figures in an area where it is suspected that they are inflating their numbers in order to receive more food than they are actually entitled to from WFP. He left yesterday afternoon and will be back on Friday or Saturday evening. Grace will be a different baby when he gets back - she is changing so much everyday! And last night, thankfully, she was a much better sleeper so that today I look and feel like a human being again.

My mom and I went to a fancy butcher's this morning and bought lots of meat to eat while the vegetarian is out of the house. Shhh...don't tell Kristoffer! My parents are going to hopefully go on a small safari this week in the Nairobi National Park and also check out the elephant orphanage. I am sure they will have another interesting story or two for their blog!

This was Kristoffer and Grace's goodbye yesterday...(maybe I was secretly crying in the other room!)



LMW

Friday, March 20, 2009

March 20, 2009 - Red White and Blue Baby

Today Grace became an officially documented US citizen. Because she is a "naturalized citizen" born to an American parent abroad, I am told she is still eligible to be US president (so watch out Barack Obama...after all, she can already roll over!). We applied for her passport and it will be ready on April 9th! We also applied for her social security number. This baby is all set.

And I am relieved to have done all of the documentation correctly so that the process at the US Embassy went very smoothly. thought it was pretty funny when the lady was looking at Grace and comparing her face to her passport photo. She was asleep but in the picture her eyes had to be open...I assured the lady that it was the same baby (and was very grateful that she didn't wake up Grace to see her eyes!).

LMW

Thursday, March 19, 2009

March 19, 2009 - Baby Rhymes (and some big news!)



I have lived three weeks of life so far
This week I went to the UN in the car
I met many people at the WFP
And everyone went crazy over little old me

The real trauma came later that day
For my passport picture I had to pose a certain way
Eyes open, two ears showing, no crying or hands showing
For a little picture that won't keep up with my growing

This week my belly has not felt so great
Spitting up and painful gas won't help me gain weight
Luckily there are lots of people to comfort me
And staying in motion makes me so happy

My mom has been reading me lots of Dr. Seuss books
I wonder if my rhymes are as good as my looks
Tomorrow we will visit the US Embassy
For citizenship and a passport just for me

GEW

p.s. I know there has been a request for me to blog in Danish, but I will need Far's help with that because my written Danish is not so good. He is very busy providing for me and my mom, but I will ask him to help me sometime soon!

Note: After Grace wrote her blog this morning we had a big event. I was sleeping in my bedroom and my parents had her sleeping on the couch in the living room. Grace likes sleeping all the way over on her side and we have been joking that if she could only get one arm under her body, she would actually roll over. WELL...let me tell you that she did that very thing today! My parents were watching her and the next thing they knew she was completely on her stomach! All of the baby books say that babies don't roll over until between 2 and 6 months. Seriously, she is 3 weeks old! Below is a picture of Grace sleeping on her belly. Now we have something new to worry about because babies aren't supposed to sleep on their stomachs! Still...we are very proud and will consider signing her up to compete in the gymnastics event of the Baby Olympics :)



LMW

Tuesday, March 17, 2009

March 17, 2009 - Happy St. Patrick's Day!

Thank you to Auntie Meghan and Auntie Christine for my cool St. Patrick's Day outfit!


I am singing an Irish ditty!




I may be more Danish and German than Irish...but the little Irish that I've got is VERY cute!


GEW

Monday, March 16, 2009

March 16, 2009 - Weekend Fun

This weekend Grace attended her first dinner party at the Country Director of WFP's home on Saturday night. She was such a good girl and we were very proud to introduce her to a few more people. She also went to the gym for the first time and sat by the pool (under a BIG umbrella!) while her grandparents and father went for a swim!

Here is a picture of Grace with her grandparents yesterday evening:




LMW

Friday, March 13, 2009

March 13, 2009 - Redefining Friday the 13th

It might be Friday the 13th, but we have nothing to be afraid of in this family!

We just got back from Grace's second doctor's appointment. She gained about 300 grams in the last week, and they normally look for babies to gain about 200 a week so that means she is doing really well! I could have told you that she eats like a champ - just look at her cheeks! For people in the US, she is now 7.6 lbs, which is up 3 oz. from her birth weight. She gained 1 cm in length which is also good. She is about 50th percentile for both height and weight. The doctor said she is developing "like clockwork" and the whole time he examined her (poking, prodding, moving her limbs, flipping her over) she didn't make a peep!

Today Grace also looked at herself in a baby mirror for the first time. She stared at herself for about 10 minutes and even though she might not have actually seen herself, when I put it a few inches in front of her she instantly reached out and touched it. She is so smart!

We are so, so lucky to have this sweet little baby. Thank you to Kristoffer for taking a good picture of me and Grace when she is not nursing!



(and not that it matters at all at this point or that i am worried about it, but i am only 8 lbs from my pre-pregnancy weight and i can wear some non-maternity clothes already! i suppose these 8 will be hardest to lose...)

LMW

Thursday, March 12, 2009

March 12, 2009 - Grace Writes Again

Hello Again!

The big news is that...



In the last week I have done a lot. I went on a trip to the grocery store two times: the first time Far carried me around the store and the second time Pops pushed me in my stroller. It was my first time in the stroller and what a sweet ride it is! I slept through the whole outing because I was so comfortable. I have also been watching a little bit of American Idol...although I have to admit that even Simon Cowell's quips and jarring with the new judge can't keep me awake for a whole two hours (we get two episodes at a time over here)!

I would say my biggest accomplishment so far is that I can follow someone's finger with my eyes and by turning my head from the left to the right. Now, I am not trying to brag...but all of the books my mom has been reading says that most babies don't do that until they are 3 months old. I definitely did it yesterday two or three times with my Far and my Pops - at only 13 days old! I hate to sound conceited, but do I hear "academic scholarship to college"?

My mom has been trying all week to get my birth certificate from the Kenyan government. She successfully got the man in charge to speed up the process so that we can apply for my American citizenship and passport - normally it takes 4-6 weeks to get a birth certificate. She sent our driver Charles to pick up 12 copies today (12 copies because someday when we don't live in Kenya it would be very hard to get copies of my birth certificate and mom wants to make sure we never need to get more in the future) and when he came home she discovered that her name was spelled wrong on all 12 copies. Now Charles has to bring the certificates back to be fixed and we have to wait a little longer for our outing to the US Embassy. Sheesh - these grown-ups make me tired!

Let's see....some other things about my life so far: I love taking a bath and do not mind being naked at all, I still have a blocked tear duct in my left eye so I get lots of gook there, I love to have my feet massaged, and today my grandparents think I look like Far for the first time. My favorite song so far is the Hawaiian version of "Somewhere Over the Rainbow" by Israel Kamakawiwo'ole and I really like the story book "If You Give a Mouse a Cookie". Far also read me a book of Danish alphabet rhymes that I like - those rhymes are so silly! I am making more cooing and sighing noises, especially when I eat and sleep, and I am definitely still eating well (I sleep well too...just not always at night!). My nails already need to be cut again and my hair seems a little lighter everyday. My parents will bring me back to Dr. Nesbitt tomorrow afternoon for a well-baby check up. They still think I am the most adorable baby ever...even when I am awake with gas and eye gook at 3 am :)

GEW

Wednesday, March 11, 2009

March 11, 2009 - Cozy Comforts

One of these days I will write about something other than Grace, but these days she seems to be my only interest!

When Grace has the hiccups or some gas making her uncomfortable, these two guys really know how to make her feel better:




Grace LOVES her bath time! In the hospital she was bathed every day, but the nurses were not nearly as gentle as her father. She is a happy girl during and after a bath:




And even though she is now a Grace and not a "Simba"...she has not forgotten where she came from:



I hope Grace's pictures aren't boring to our blog readers...I just can't get enough of her!

LMW

Tuesday, March 10, 2009

March 10, 2009 - The Twelve Days of Grace's Life



The Twelve Days of Grace's Life...sung to the tune of the "The Twelve Days of Christmas":

On the first day of Grace's life my baby gave to me: a C-section non-emergency.

On the second day of Grace's life my baby gave to me: two eyes wide open and a C-section non-emergency.

On the third day of Grace's life my baby gave to me: three vaccinations, two eyes wide open, and a C-section non-emergency.

On the fourth day of Grace's life my baby gave to me: four poopy diapers, three vaccinations, two eyes wide open, and a C-section non-emergency.

On the fifth day of Grace's life my baby gave to me: five hours of sleep, four poopy diapers, three vaccinations, two eyes wide open, and a C-section non-emergency.

On the sixth day of Grace's life my baby gave to me: six gassy smiles, five hours of sleep, four poopy diapers, three vaccinations, two eyes wide open, and a C-section non-emergency.

On the seventh day of Grace's life my baby gave to me: seven cries at night, six gassy smiles, five hours of sleep, four poopy diapers, three vaccinations, two eyes wide open, and a C-section non-emergency.

On the eighth day of Grace's life my baby gave to me: eight minutes with my doctor, seven cries at night, six gassy smiles, five hours of sleep, four poopy diapers, three vaccinations, two eyes wide open, and a C-section non-emergency.

On the ninth day of Grace's life my baby gave to me: nine gifts of spit up, eight minutes with my doctor, seven cries at night, six gassy smiles, five hours of sleep, four poopy diapers, three vaccinations, two eyes wide open, and a C-section non-emergency.

On the tenth day of Grace's life my baby gave to me: ten gripping fingers, nine gifts of spit up, eight minutes with my doctor, seven cries at night, six gassy smiles, five hours of sleep, four poopy diapers, three vaccinations, two eyes wide open, and a C-section non-emergency.

On the eleventh day of Grace's life my baby gave to me: eleven hours with Far at work, ten gripping fingers, nine gifts of spit up, eight minutes with my doctor, seven cries at night, six gassy smiles, five hours of sleep, four poopy diapers, three vaccinations, two eyes wide open, and a C-section non-emergency.

On the twelfth day of Grace's life my baby gave to me: twelve feeding sessions, eleven hours with Far at work, ten gripping fingers, nine gifts of spit up, eight minutes with my doctor, seven cries at night, six gassy smiles, five hours of sleep, four poopy diapers, three vaccinations, two eyes wide open, and a C-section non-emergency.

(In other words - it has been the best 12 days EVER!)


LMW

Saturday, March 7, 2009

March 7, 2009 - Simba's Due Date

Today is Grace's due date. We told her that before today we had no expectations of her because she was "negative days" old or "underdue". Now that she is full term, we are encouraging her to perform. Kristoffer is hoping she'll crawl soon...while I am leaning more towards strengthening her neck and focusing her eyes :) Ok ok, so I'm sort of hoping she'll be reading soon. Guilty as charged. We are so glad she came early - what would our lives have been the previous 9 days if not for her?!

I haven't uploaded any new pictures in the last two days to our computer, but this is one my friend sent me from the hospital when Grace was 2 days old. I love it because it is close up on her face (and let's be honest, all of the pictures Kristoffer took of Grace the first two days were of me nursing her so I don't have very many good pictures of her face!). Even since then, we can see that she has changed. Her hair has grown and her neck is much stronger than it was. Sometimes she seems close to rolling over! Now I get it when people say, "Oh, how quickly they grow up!" I wish I could keep her like this forever.



LMW

Friday, March 6, 2009

March 6, 2009 - A New Blog in the Family

My mom has started her own blog to share the experiences she and my father have while they are here visiting us through Easter weekend. This is also a way for her to brag about Grace even though she can't call everyone on the phone!

Check it out!
http://muellersinkenya.blogspot.com

LMW

March 6, 2009 - Mini Me

Grace does not look like me now, except maybe for her nose, but she does look an awful lot like me when I was born. Below is my baby picture: I have much different hair and a much different hairline than Grace, but the rest of our baby faces look the same! My birth weight was also only half an ounce more than Grace's and my parents say they have deja vu a lot because when Grace is hungry the way she opens her mouth makes her look like a bird, which is apparently what they called me as an infant because I did the same thing. Our big hope, of course, is that Grace retains her beautiful, blue eyes like Kristoffer and her eyebrows and fast-growing eyelashes indicate that she might just be a Danish blond. Lucky girl! I am sure her looks will change, but at least for right now...I think I'll call her "Mini Me".

Me:


Grace:


(My parents brought about 50 baby/toddler pictures of me and even Kristoffer agrees that Grace looks like me at the same age. So I am not just a crazy mother...I mean, I may be a crazy mother, but not about this!)

LMW

Thursday, March 5, 2009

March 5, 2009 - Grace's First Blog

Hello!

My name is Grace and...



When I was really small - you know, last week - I didn't do much more than sleep in my Far's arms or eat from my Mama. I have always been good at emulating my parents - when they stick out their tongue at me, I stick mine right out at them and when they open their mouths wide I can do it too! Now that I'm a week old I can also keep my eyes open for longer stretches of time. I have just discovered that I have a lot of cool stuff too, including my swing and a vibrating seat that gives me a good back massage. This week I have met a lot of really nice people; I love being warm in the crook of my Pops' arm and today my Nene taught me how to suck on a binky (pacifier or sut) instead of my fingers or thumbs. I also feel a little bit like I owe Nene an apology because I have already pooped and spit up all over her (not at the same time, at least), but I promise that I only do such things to people I really love!

I get the feeling that my Mama is a little bit tired...I am a pretty demanding eater at night so she isn't getting too much sleep, but she is surprisingly always in a good mood and never stops smiling at me. Far is the go-to guy when I really need or want something because he can't stand to hear me cry for one minute! I think I have him wrapped good and tightly around my littlest finger :)

Today I went to see Dr. Nesbitt. He told me that I gained back about half of the weight that I had lost as of Monday but otherwise my length and head circumference were the same as when I was born. Because I was born early I am only in the 25th percentile for my height but I am in the 50th percentile for weight. I had to have another blood test - thankfully Nene held me because my mom was crying too much - which showed that I still have jaundice and I should spend some more time in the sun. The doctor said overall that I am a healthy girl and I will go back and see him next week. I do have one blocked tear duct but he taught Far how to massage it to make it better and even though it looks yucky it doesn't hurt. Mama is going to see her doctor tomorrow because apparently she had to have a big operation to bring me into the world and the doctor has to check how she is healing. She seems to be feeling well though and she never stops telling me how much she loves me and how perfect I am!

Below is a slideshow so that you can see all I have done and some of the people I have met this past week (including neighbors, friends, and colleagues of my parents). If you want to see the pictures bigger, just click on it.



If Mama lets me, I promise I will write again soon! Thank you for all of the nice comments about me to my parents on the blog and through their email. Remember, if you want to see me "live", set up a skype account so my parents can introduce us!

GEW

Tuesday, March 3, 2009

March 3, 2009 - First Night at Home

Note to Self: Don't publicly announce, as I did on the blog last night, that your newborn daughter sleeps well when it is her first night home from the hospital. Because OBVIOUSLY she will then not sleep well. Duh!

Grace and Kristoffer slept from 8-10 last night while I was finally reading email and blogging (I know, I know...when baby sleeps, I am supposed to sleep. But I was really excited and sort of on an adrenaline rush!). Then she pretty much ate on and off for the next 3 hours and didn't go to sleep until 1 am which definitely not the pattern we had going at the hospital. Apparently, she missed the memo that said. "Say goodnight, Gracie!" Next she woke up from 3 to 5 to continue eating, which was fine with me but has left me a bit sleepy still. Now, at 7:19 am, she is still sleeping, which I should be doing except that Kristoffer is on his way home from the airport with my parents and I am too excited to sleep!

Besides, they are here for the next 6 weeks to hold her when she isn't eating so I can sleep, right? Also, she makes the cuuuutest baby noises in her sleep, which I am enjoying as I write this.

Below is the only actual smile (also known as gas) we have been able to capture of our Gracie Girl...but boy is it a good one!



LMW

Monday, March 2, 2009

March 2, 2009 - Amazing Grace

Grace Elizabeth Welsien was born at 8:38 am on Thursday, February 26, 2009 at The Aga Khan Hospital in Nairobi, Kenya. She weighed 3.3 kg (about 7 lbs. 3 oz.) and was 50 cm long (about 20 inches). Grace, the baby formerly known as Simba, is beautiful and perfect in every way; we fell madly in love with our daughter from the moment she was born. Even though most people thought we were having a boy - Kristoffer included - we are so, so happy that it was Grace growing inside me the whole time :)

Wednesday night we checked into the hospital around 9 pm. I had blood tests and an EKG and was visited by both my obstetrician and my anesthesiologist; we were very anxious for the morning to come. They came to get us around 7 am for my 7:45 surgery and we were definitely ready for Simba to arrive.

Kristoffer got changed into his “scrubs” (blue doctor’s clothes) and I was prepped for the operation. The spinal block, which I had before for my 1993 knee surgery, was just as I remembered it. It is definitely a strange sensation to lose feeling in the lower half of your body over the course of a few minutes. Before we knew it, we were behind a draped curtain with the anesthesiologist on our side, and my obstetrician and Grace’s pediatrician were on the other side beginning the surgery.

Kristoffer was holding my hand and we were talking to each other; I was also saying the Hail Mary (as I had been doing all morning) alternately to myself and aloud. A C-Section is an interesting surgery because while I couldn’t feel any pain, I could feel a lot of pushing/pulling/tugging as the doctor operated on me. Very weird! After about 10 minutes they started to indicate that the baby was coming out. Normally the anesthesiologist would push down from my upper abdomen but my doctor asked her not to; as it turned out the baby was in a very bad position and needed to be removed in an extremely delicate manner. Kristoffer started to peak on the other side of the curtain and said, “I can see a leg!” and just as I prayed, “Hail Mary, full of Grace…” the doctor said, “It’s a girl!”

As it turned out, she had been folded up in a “U” position with her bum down and her feet up by her head; additionally, the placenta was wrapped around her neck. All we can say is thank God that we opted for the C-Section because if I had gone into natural labor and had tried to deliver her there would have been complications even more serious than we feared.

When Grace came out, she was totally blue/purple. The pediatrician and nurses instantly brought her to the room next door with Kristoffer following closely behind; I still had at least 45 minutes of surgery left in front of me. Grace didn’t cry right away…it took almost a minute for them to clear her lungs and for her to cry out. Believe me when I say it was the longest minute of my life and when she did finally cry I thought it was the greatest sound I had ever heard.

After the doctor checked her out and assured Kristoffer that she was perfectly healthy, Kristoffer was alone with Grace for the first 90 minutes to 2 hours of her life. They really bonded in this time and it is still very clear that she knows her father! Sadly for me, I only got a small peak at her face once while I was still being operated on, and then I had to wait almost two hours for them to finish up, bring me to recovery and then eventually to the maternity ward so I could see my husband and daughter. I just kept saying, “Let me see my baby….I want to see my baby!”

Since then, we have had a wonderful four days with Grace. Several of our friends and colleagues visited us while we were in the hospital, which we loved, and we were also very grateful for time alone as a family of three. It took three days for my milk to come in so Grace had to receive a little bit of formula supplement until I could nurse. But let me tell you, since it has come in she is eating like a champ and I truly love nursing her! She is also a good and regular sleeper, as most newborns are.

Kristoffer and I have had a few moments of parental panic and sadness so far, particularly when Grace received vaccinations for tuberculosis, polio, and hepatitis B (hep B is a very painful shot!). Grace stopped crying after only a few minutes (if that), but I didn’t stop for nearly twenty more minutes. It was very traumatic! My hormones are certainly raging and I admit that when I am holding Grace and looking at her or feeding her, I often just start crying because I am so happy and because I am so overcome with love for her.

We were finally able to come home from the hospital this afternoon (Monday) after I had two really good days of nursing Grace, recovering from my surgery, and after Grace was cleared to go home despite a little bit of jaundice. The doctors at the hospital were wonderful throughout, our accommodations at the hospital were rather hotel-like (food was pretty good…but after 5 days we were ready to GO!), and there were a few nurses who we thought were really outstanding with all three of us. All in all, we had an excellent experience having a baby in Nairobi!

We have quite a few videos and pictures that we would like to share, but we are also getting adjusted to our new life here and my parents will arrive tomorrow morning (their flight from Boston was delayed due to a snowstorm and they missed their connection in London so they will not arrive tonight – sadly!). We are very, very grateful for everyone’s emails, phone calls, and text messages and we promise to respond and share as much as we can of our little girl as soon as we can. Thank you for all of your best wishes – Grace is a lucky little baby to have such a supportive and loving network of family and friends throughout the world welcoming her home. Below is just a sample of what the last five days have been like for us:

Grace and Mama on Day 2:


Grace is all ready to come home from the hospital:


Grace and Far are sleepy tonight:


We feel nothing short of completely blessed to have a healthy, beautiful, amazing daughter. She is a miracle and her birth is, by far, the greatest thing that has ever happened to us!

LMW

p.s. While watching episodes of Seinfeld on our laptop in the hospital, we discovered that laughter is NOT the best medicine when you are recovering from a C-section (along with sneezing, coughing, and blowing my nose, which all aggravate my pain)!

Wednesday, February 25, 2009

February 25, 2009 - Movin' On Up

My C-section has been bumped up to 7:45 tomorrow morning instead of in the afternoon. This is good because when you are the first surgery of the day there are no delays and all the doctors will be there (not caught up in other emergencies). It means that by tomorrow afternoon I will be encouraged to walk around, which is a good thing after spinal anesthesia. It also means that we have to check in to the hospital at 9 pm tonight and spend the night there (that's in 5 hours, by the way) because they want to do some tests on my heart/pacemaker and all my bloodwork tonight. I guess technically Kristoffer doesn't HAVE to spend the night with me, but he is going to anyway - we are in this together! So the countdown now is even more of a countdown!

Last night we went to our last lamaze class, which was actually helpful because it was about taking care of the baby and of me after birth/delivery! Our class was very supportive of my C-section tomorrow and the mid-wife who taught us promised to check on how everything goes.

Today is also Ash Wednesday, and for Lent I've decided to give up being pregnant. Effective tomorrow.
(come on...that is a funny joke!)

All joking aside, before I went to mass today to begin the Lenten season and say some prayers for tomorrow, I met with the anesthesiologist who will be in my surgery. It was great. She asked a lot of questions about my medical history, heart condition, pacemaker, pregnancy, etc. Then she explained to me step by step what will happen from the time I check in to the hospital tonight until the day after the surgery. It was very helpful. I thought she was very professional and she definitely understood my concerns about the spinal anesthesia and addressed those concerns. I think it is going to go so well!

We appreciate all of your thoughts, wishes and prayers. Time Zone Check: the surgery is at 7:45 AM Kenya time, 11:45 PM (tonight) East Coast US time, and 5:45 AM Danish time. We are so, so excited and can't wait to tell you all about our baby!

Happy Almost Birthday to Simba and Mormor Karen!

Love, The Almost Mommy

Tuesday, February 24, 2009

February 24, 2009 - Simba's Birth-date

No no, I haven't had the baby yet! But after a big day yesterday with two different doctors (my regular doctor and the ultrasound doctor) we came to the conclusion that a scheduled C-section is the safest way for Simba to enter the world.

My doctor was really nervous that the baby hasn't flipped yet because as we get closer to my due date the risks increase should I go into natural labor. She wanted us to schedule the c-section right away but we asked for another ultrasound first. When I had the ultrasound yesterday the doctor found that Simba has gained 2 lbs in the last 3 weeks, has almost no room left in utero to move around, and that there is very little amniotic fluid left to help facilitate the flip. In other words, it is very, very unlikely (especially given everything we've tried) that Simba will flip. This baby is staying breech! And like my regular doc, the ultrasound doc recommended that we have the surgery before the end of this week because the risks will only increase as we get into my 40th week.

I had a minor emotional breakdown that sounded something like, "I don't want to have surgery in Kenya!" But after talking to my childbirth-experienced sister, my parents, and most of all Kristoffer, I realized that it is not worth it to wait until next week to hope for a very unlikely flip and increase the chances of having a very dramatic or traumatic childbirth experience. Especially because we are in Kenya - where we are happy and confident in the medical care I've received so far but are still nervous about having an emergency here - scheduling the surgery makes much more sense than leaving the situation to chance. Kristoffer and I also had our first moments of parental guilt yesterday. All of the crazy efforts we were trying to flip the baby - and believe me, some of them were CRAZY - did yield a lot of baby movement; Simba was probably trying to flip like we wanted him/her to do but given the accommodations in there just couldn't do it! We hope we didn't cause our baby too much stress and spent last night apologizing to the belly repeatedly. Needless to say, all flipping efforts have ceased.


My c-section has been scheduled for this Thursday February 26th at 3pm (Kenya time).
The doctor couldn't get an operating room on Friday or Saturday and didn't want to wait any longer than that. We think this is a pretty special date to have a baby because it is Kristoffer's grandmother's (Mormor Karen's) 85th birthday and what a gift we can give her! Tomorrow morning I am meeting with my doctor and the anesthesiologist to sort of prep for Thursday. We go into the hospital at 8:30am on Thursday morning for pre-op blood work and all that jazz, and then the baby will be born. I've heard that it takes 15 minutes to get the little one out :)

Since we adjusted to the idea that this is really happening, we have both been giddy with excitement. I could barely sleep last night and when I did sleep I was having surgical dreams. Kristoffer had a very hard time getting himself to work this morning. It is funny to be planning and waiting and planning and waiting, and then to all of the sudden know the exact hour when we will actually have our baby with us in the world.

My parents will be joining us in Kenya on Monday night; I was already very grateful that they were coming, but especially having the c-section I am glad that they will be around to help me and Simba recover and adjust to our new life. Kristoffer will be off from work through next week and will save the rest of his paternity leave for our trips home to Denmark and the US in June.

Again, this is not exactly the way I pictured the whole thing going and having surgery in Kenya has never been on my to do list ("But you're so good at having surgery!" Kristoffer told me), but I have gotten good at rolling with the punches and Simba's health and well-being is the most important thing in the world to both of us. So we will have this surgery and will soon have ourselves a healthy baby on our hands.

The next big surprise will be: lion or lioness?!

LMW

Monday, February 23, 2009

February 23, 2009 - Aid to Africa take 2

So after I wrote my previous blog this morning, Kristoffer and I talked about the article. He is pretty strongly opposed to the opinions expressed by Dambisa Moyo, the author of the book "Dead Aid", particularly to her argument about China. He asks the question about what kind of infrastructure would exist in Africa at all without foreign aid. He is totally right there and, again, I do not entirely agree with her. But I do think that she has a point and think that the truth lies somewhere inbetween her extreme opinion and his. It is obviously a complicated issue with a complicated history, but I like that it is being openly addressed in mainstream media at the very least.

Actually, the part of the Times piece that I liked the most, which I forgot to even write about because I got so caught up in Ida and Brian's saga, is the part about micro-financing or micro-lending.

She mentioned the website www.kiva.org, which is a fantastic way to give loans to small business owners in Africa. Kristoffer has been lending to several women in Kenya through a generous Christmas gift from my parents for the last two years. When they pay back the loan he gave them, he asks my parents to reinvest the money in someone else. We believe strongly that this is one non-corrupt way that Western money can really help and empower people in developing countries and we would encourage others - if they feel they want to give towards development in some way - to go through this or a similar website.

OK, I'll be done for today now.
LMW